1. Tool Kit Motivation Formula Transforming Challenges Into Personal Strength

2. Tool KitPROMPT:PREPARED:PARTICIPATE:RESPECT: CLASS COMMITMENTS I will arrive early and attend all classes. I will bring my Game Plan to every class and will have all my journaling completed. I will share, report and be engaged in all activities. I will respect myself and others at all times during class.

3. Tool Kit REVIEW FROM LAST CLASS Let’s see who will review & teach us the metaphor from last class …

4. Tool Kit SHARE & REPORT MOTIVATION QUESTION ACTION STEP WEAK THINK / STRONG THINK GAME PLAN JOURNAL Let’s each take a turn standing up to share & report for 1 - 2 minutes on ONE of these areas from last class.

5. Tool Kit Where We’re Headed I WILL transform my challenges into personal strength!

6. Tool Kit Reality Ride Seeing Over the Wall Get Plugged In Climbing Out of the Pot Lift the Weight Defense Mechanisms Desire- Time-Effort Jumping Over Hurdles Tearing Off Labels Motivation Formula “Creating greater opportunity, freedom, and personal strength through resiliency education.”

7. Tool Kit Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength

8. Tool Kit Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1

9. Tool Kit Insert “Christian_WhyTry” video. This video has been provided in your downloaded folder.

10. Tool Kit Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Energy Anger Frustration Sadness

11. Tool Kit Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy

12. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy

13. Tool Kit Flood damage is very real!

14. Tool Kit What caused the road & bridge to go out?

15. Tool Kit If I wasn’t paying attention, how dangerous would this road be to drive on?

16. Tool Kit What’s happening here?

17. Tool Kit Why is flood water always this color?

18. Tool Kit Why is the flood water following this path?

19. Tool Kit Hurricane Katrina, New Orleans, August, 2005: What caused the most damage to the city?

20. Tool Kit How easy is it going to be for this family to recover from this flood?

21. Tool Kit Does a flood care who or what gets in its way?

22. Tool Kit Can the destructive force of water be transformed into something positive and helpful?

23. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy

24. Tool Kit Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength What were some of Christian's challenges and aspects of his life as he described his flood zone?

25. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Energy

26. Tool Kit Damage Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Who were Christian's “Lifelines”? How did they reach out to him?

27. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Energy

28. Tool Kit Why is struggle an essential ingredient in metamorphosis? Harvey McKay Handout “Obstacles Are Stepping Stones of Success”

29. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Energy

30. Tool Kit 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Damage Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? What was Christian’s Self Talk? Self Talk? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over?

31. Tool Kit I lift The Debater balloon when I -feel the need to prove that I’m right and you’re wrong; -when I am not open to or unable to consider any other possibilities other than what I already know or believe; -when I look at a complex issue as simply black or white; -when it’s my way or not at all! THE DEBATER DO THE RIGHT THING AND FIND A SHADE OF GREY Doing right will always take a person farther in life than just being right about something. A strong person with Character & Heart will search for and be open to the best fitting “shade of grey” or level of understanding that will help themself and others.

32. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Energy

33. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? Energy

34. Tool Kit Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Damage Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? How did Christian demonstrate Character & Heart?

35. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? Energy 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue?

36. Tool Kit Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Damage Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? What were some of Christian’s reasons for continuing as he did?

37. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Energy 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here?

38. Tool Kit 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Damage Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? What was Christian’s passion and how did he turn it outward? 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here?

39. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Energy 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here? Get Plugged In 8 8

40. Tool Kit 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Damage Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Get Plugged In 8 8 Based on Christian’s passion, who is he plugged into now?

41. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Get Plugged In 8 8 Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Energy

42. Tool Kit Get Plugged In 8 8 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here? 6 6 Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Damage Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? How has Christian’s past anger been transformed into gratitude today?

43. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage Get Plugged In 8 8 Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Energy WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Personal Strength What might my life look like when I get here?

44. Tool Kit Get Plugged In 8 8 7 7 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Damage Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Personal Strength What might my life look like when I get here? Once I am here, who else can I help get here? Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward What does Christian’s life look like now that he is here?

45. Tool Kit I lift the Channel Surfing balloon when I change the subject to avoid responsibility or shift attention away from a problem or issue. CHANNEL SURFING RIDE IT TO THE SHORE Sticking with a subject or topic and focusing on it until it is resolved; Strapping yourself on to the “surfboard” and riding it out all the way to the shore. In other words...dealing with it fully!

46. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Personal Strength What might my life look like when I get here? Get Plugged In 8 8 Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Energy

47. Tool KitREVIEW Let’s see who will review for us the basic concepts of the Motivation Formula

48. Tool Kit “The Flood Zone” WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Personal Strength Get Plugged In Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Choice Who Are My Lifelines? Positive Self Talk Character & Heart Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Energy

49. Tool Kit How has being introduced to this formula impacted my understanding of my own motivation? I will teach this formula to one person in the next 6 days and be ready to report back. MOTIVATION QUESTION ACTION STEP WEAK / STRONG THINK Channel Surfing Shades of Grey The Debater Ride It To The Shore / / LOOKING AHEAD:

50. Tool Kit Motivation Formula Transforming Challenges Into Personal Strength

51. Tool Kit (House Gets Ripped Apart In Flood – YouTube) With a paid WhyTry online curriculum license you have full access to a list of recommended YouTube videos for all of the WhyTry metaphors and classes. 1.Access recommended video resources list by logging into your account at: http://corrections.whytry.org/index.php/log-in then go to “Toolkit” and “Video Resources” 2.Download onto your computer the recommended video for this slide from YouTube, or a video of your own liking. 3.Delete this text box and insert the video from your computer onto this slide.

52. Tool Kit (Positive Self-talk – Zig Zigler – YouTube) With a paid WhyTry online curriculum license you have full access to a list of recommended YouTube videos for all of the WhyTry metaphors and classes. 1.Access recommended video resources list by logging into your account at: http://corrections.whytry.org/index.php/log-in then go to “Toolkit” and “Video Resources” 2.Download onto your computer the recommended video for this slide from YouTube, or a video of your own liking. 3.Delete this text box and insert the video from your computer onto this slide.

53. Tool Kit (Pursue Your Passion – Kirk Nugent with lyrics – YouTube) With a paid WhyTry online curriculum license you have full access to a list of recommended YouTube videos for all of the WhyTry metaphors and classes. 1.Access recommended video resources list by logging into your account at: http://corrections.whytry.org/index.php/log-in then go to “Toolkit” and “Video Resources” 2.Download onto your computer the recommended video for this slide from YouTube, or a video of your own liking. 3.Delete this text box and insert the video from your computer onto this slide.

54. Tool Kit Insert “ChangeUp” video. This video has been provided in your downloaded folder.

55. Tool Kit Lyric: “Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, hold up … Are ya’ll really with me? Do you believe that your pain can be used as fuel to overcome your challenges? Do You?” What are your thoughts about this lyric from the song? Lyric: “’So sick and tired of being sick and tired,’ - have you ever said that?” What are your thoughts about this lyric from the song? Change Up

56. Tool Kit Insert “FaceTheChallenge” video. This video has been provided in your downloaded folder.

57. Tool Kit What do you think the author is getting at when he says in the chorus, “Know the worth of your point of view”? Face The Challenge What do you think the author means when he states, “If you’re gonna’ go the distance, stay off the path of least resistance.” Do you agree or disagree with this perspective?

58. Tool Kit MIND OVER MATTER Step By Step Instructions Click Here

59. Tool Kit MIND OVER MATTER 1.Everyone stand up. 2.Every come get a string with a washer tied to the end of it. 3.Hold the end of the string with the washer in front of your face at arm’s length directly in front of your eyes. 4.Arms and elbows can’t touch anything. 5.Stop the washer from moving with your other hand. 6.Now think, “Left – Right – Left – Right …” 7.STOP washer with other hand after 30 seconds if movement exists. 8.Now think, “Front – Back – Front – Back …” 9.STOP washer with other hand after 30 seconds if movement exists. 10.Now thinks, “Round – Round – Round – Round” 11.STOP washer with other hand after 30 seconds if movement exists.

60. Tool Kit MIND OVER MATTER How powerful is our mind as it relates to what our body does? How do our ACTIONS influence what we think and say to ourselves? How do our THOUGHTS (self-talk) influence our behavior? How and/or where does this activity connect and relate to the Motivation Formula?

61. Tool Kit SILVER LINING Step By Step Instructions Click Here (*) Silver lining worksheet is required with this activity.

62. Tool Kit 1.What do you think the statement above means? 2.What might be a “silver lining” in the following statement, “It’s rainy, damp, and cold day outside, and now I can’t go for a walk.” 3.Finish the following statements on your worksheet:  _________________________________________________. I hate it when… SILVER LINING

63. Tool Kit How difficult was it to finish the phrase, “I hate it when…” Let’s share some of our “silver lining” statements… How difficult was it to think of positive “silver lining” responses? If all we ever see and think about is negative aspects of life, how likely are we to move forward in a positive direction? When facing a challenge, how can looking for a “silver lining” be beneficial and helpful to us? SILVER LINING

64. Tool Kit SYNERGY Step By Step Instructions Click Here

65. Tool Kit 1.Break into two groups. Each group must have the same number of participants or no more than one person difference. 2.Each team gets one pencil and a fresh piece of paper per round. 3.Each team member must write down one answer and then pass the paper to the next person. 4.The object is to write down as many answers as you can as a team. Duplicate answers will not count. 5.If you can not think of an answer, you must write “Skip” and then pass the paper. 6.NO TALKING IS ALLOWED! ROUND 1: “Animals with four legs” Ready go! SYNERGY

66. Tool Kit 1.Break into two groups. Each group must have the same number of participants or no more than one person difference. 2.Each team gets one pencil and a fresh piece of paper per round. 3.Each team member must write down one answer and then pass the paper to the next person. 4.The object is to write down as many answers as you can as a team. Duplicate answers will not count. 5.If you can not think of an answer, you must write “Skip” and then pass the paper. 6.NO TALKING IS ALLOWED! ROUND 2: “Professional Basketball Teams” Ready go! SYNERGY

67. Tool Kit 1.Break into two groups. Each group must have the same number of participants or no more than one person difference. 2.Each team gets one pencil and a fresh piece of paper per round. 3.Each team member must write down one answer and then pass the paper to the next person. 4.The object is to write down as many answers as you can as a team. Duplicate answers will not count. 5.If you can not think of an answer, you must write “Skip” and then pass the paper. 6.NO TALKING IS ALLOWED! ROUND 3: “Television Shows” Ready go! SYNERGY

68. Tool Kit 1.Break into two groups. Each group must have the same number of participants or no more than one person difference. 2.Each team gets one pencil and a fresh piece of paper per round. 3.Each team member must write down one answer and then pass the paper to the next person. 4.The object is to write down as many answers as you can as a team. Duplicate answers will not count. 5.If you can not think of an answer, you must write “Skip” and then pass the paper. 6.TALKING BETWEEN TEAM MEMBERS IS NO ALLOWED! ROUND 4: “Professional Football Teams” Ready go! SYNERGY

69. Tool Kit 1.Break into two groups. Each group must have the same number of participants or no more than one person difference. 2.Each team gets one pencil and a fresh piece of paper per round. 3.Each team member must write down one answer and then pass the paper to the next person. 4.The object is to write down as many answers as you can as a team. Duplicate answers will not count. 5.If you can not think of an answer, you must write “Skip” and then pass the paper. 6.TALKING BETWEEN TEAM MEMBERS IS NO ALLOWED! ROUND 5: “Musical Instruments” Ready go! SYNERGY

70. Tool Kit 1.Break into two groups. Each group must have the same number of participants or no more than one person difference. 2.Each team gets one pencil and a fresh piece of paper per round. 3.Each team member must write down one answer and then pass the paper to the next person. 4.The object is to write down as many answers as you can as a team. Duplicate answers will not count. 5.If you can not think of an answer, you must write “Skip” and then pass the paper. 6.TALKING BETWEEN TEAM MEMBERS IS NO ALLOWED! ROUND 6 – Last One: “Food Served In Restaurants” Ready go! SYNERGY

71. Tool Kit How did being able to talk to each other help the team? What role does a person’s passion and interest play into how much they know about something? How does working together with other people help make a problem easier to solve? By being open to other’s help, how does having varied backgrounds, interests, and experiences make it easier to solve a problem? SYNERGY

72. Tool Kit Base Image Challenge Energy Choice Flood Zone Lifelines Challenges Create Motivation Challenges Create Motivation Obstacles Are Stepping StonesObstacles Are Stepping Stones Positive Self-talk Character & Heart The Desert Personal Passion & Purpose Get Plugged In Anger - Gratitude Positive Energy Cover w/ Music Class Commitments Review Last Class Share & Report Where We’re Headed Staircase Single Slide Animated Motivation Formula ACTIVITIES Mind Over Matter Silver Lining Synergy MUSIC Change Up Face The Challenge VIDEOS Flood Zone Positive Self-talk Pursue Your Passion Christian – Why Try? 1 1 2 2 3 3 4 4 5 5 6 6 7 7 8 8 WEAK/STRONG THINK Debater / Shade of GreyDebater / Shade of Grey Channel Surfing / Ride It To The ShoreChannel Surfing / Ride It To The Shore

73. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Personal Strength What might my life look like when I get here? Get Plugged In 8 8 Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Energy

74. Tool Kit Lift the Weight What Makes Me Strong? Do any of these things create greater opportunity, freedom, and personal strength? If ”yes,” keep lifting. If ”no,” create a new workout. “Easy” No Resistance “Hard” Resistance 2 2 Laws, Rules, Expectations: Home? Peers? Work/School? Legal? Why do I need resistance to become stronger? 1 1 What are three things that I spend most of my time thinking about and doing?...... 4 4 What is at least one new daily workout I can start in order to create more character, heart, and personal strength? 5 5 Why is this my most important “muscle” and source of personal strength? 6 6 C haracter C hoice C hallenge What has this produced in my life? Where have I lifted the balloon in my life? 3 3 ExcusesExcuses BlameBlame AvoidanceAvoidance QuittingQuitting ApathyApathy

75. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels What have my negative labels paid me in the past? What will “The Real Me” pay me in the future? 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? Why is it EASY to prove my negative labels true? What have I done in the past to prove my negative labels true? Why is it HARD to express and stay focused on “The Real Me.” 1. STOP living up to my negative labels and prove them wrong! 2. REMEMBER the pay offs. 3. DECIDE that my negative labels are from the past! Today I choose to keep them on or start tearing them off! 4. FLEX “The Real Me” and make it stand out so much that the negative label must be torn off. What new observable behaviors will I do to show I am better than my negative labels? How can I prove “The Real Me” is true? Every night ask: What did I do today to tear off my negative labels? How can I do more of this tomorrow? What would be different if I woke up tomorrow and my negative labels were suddenly gone? Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3

76. Tool Kit Jumping Hurdles Learning How Not To Stumble GET 3. GET Help Who can I plug into when I need help? BELIEVE 5. BELIEVE In Change What would it take for this number to go up? 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 “ I believe I won’t change” “I don’t know” “I believe I will change” On a scale from one to ten, how much do I believe I will change? What have I already jumped over? 2 2 What can I jump over? 4 4 Why should I try to jump my hurdles? 3 3 IDENTIFY 1. IDENTIFY The Pain “No Pain – No Gain” Why am I tired of falling and tripping over my hurdles? What pain has my falling and tripping caused myself and others? 6 6 What have I not tried in the past that might work now? What have I tried before that I can put more effort into now? CREATE 2. CREATE Options 5 5 What are my strengths? TAKE 4. TAKE Action What specific observable behaviors do I need to STOP and START to jump my hurdle? My Problem: I Only Lose If I Give Up & Quit! 1 1 What signs or clues are there that this is a real problem of mine? JUMP 6. JUMP Back Up What will I and others LOSE if I don’t learn how to jump over this hurdle? What will I and others GAIN if I truly learn how to jump over this hurdle? What will my self talk be as I continue to run the race?

77. Tool Kit There Are No Shortcuts To true success

78. Tool Kit Defense Mechanisms Creating A Strong Positive Defense With My Thoughts, Feelings, and Choices Defense How do I know when I have chosen a Strong positive defense mechanism ? Thought Thought & Feeling 3 3 5 5 What is a defense mechanism? 1 1 Disrespected Confronted Yelled at Lied to Threatened Pressured Wrong Blamed Pushed/Hit Frustrated Put Down Cheated Caught in the act Told what to do Angry Confused Situation 2 2 How do I respond (act) when I’m… “Hard” “Easy” Four Steps To Create A Strong Positive Defense 6 6 Weak Strong Strong How does this produce more personal strength? 1. NOTICE the warning signs of the attack. Anger Frustration Nervous Fear Adrenaline Pulse racing 3. CONTROL my response: “I will not let anyone else control how I respond!” How do I know when someone else is trying to control how I respond to a situation? 4. CHOOSE a positive defense mechanism. What will I probably gain when I choose a Strong ”Hard” defense mechanism? 2. IDENTIFY my thoughts & feelings. Once identified: A) Check it… B) Reframe it… C) Calm it. - What are two areas in my life where I know I will be attacked? - How can I practice identifying my thoughts & feelings before the attack hits full on? Choice 4 4 Who controls the choice I make? How do I protect my feelings? “When I am helping, not hurting, myself and others”

79. Tool Kit Why is it difficult for the crabs to climb out of the pot? WARNING: If I try to get out, I will be attacked! Why does this happen? 1 1 What “Pot” am I in? 2 2 What have I told myself and others about the “Pot” that has kept us in it? 3 3 What “tools” are available to me to help me climb out? 9 9 What will my future be like if I don’t get out? 7 7 When I get out, what will I need to stay focused on and do in order to STAY out? 10 Who wants to see me STAY IN the “Pot” 4 4 What are their reasons for wanting me to stay in? What have been my reasons for staying in the “Pot”? 6 6 What are my reasons for putting forth the time and effort needed for me to be able to climb out? 8 8 Who wants to see me GET OUT of the “Pot” 5 5 What are their reasons for wanting me to get out? How have these choices made me feel? Who do I know who stayed in the “Pot” too long and never made it out? If they were here right now, what would they probably say to me about their “Pot”? Climbing Out of the Pot Identifying Strong Family Members and Friends

80. Tool Kit 1 1 Parent / Family / Significant Other / Spouse 2 2 Positive Friend 3 3 Counselor / Teacher / Officer / Other Professional 4 4 Positive Mentor / Sponsor 5 5 My Passion and Purpose Turned Outward These 5 connections will help turn on the “light” to see my future more clearly How much time am I communicating with my parent(s), family, significant other or spouse? (I need to spend at least 30 minutes a day communicating with them – talk face-to-face, phone, letter, etc.) What is one conflict, argument, or power struggle that I can give up today that won’t hurt me and will help lower my parent(s), family, significant other or spouse’s anxiety about me? I know I have a real friend when I am with them and they do things that help, not hurt, themselves and me. What do I need to work on to become more of a positive friend to others? Who knows and believes in ”The Real Me” because I have been honest with them and have shared what I really want to become and accomplish? What am I willing to do in order to get to know them better and allow them to get to know me better? Who do I know, or could get to know, who has overcome some of the same challenges that I have and accomplished goals and dreams similar to mine? Who am I willing to take a risk with and ask them if they are willing to help me? What are three qualities about them that I would like to develop more in myself? Who do I really want to share my passion and purpose with? What do I need to do to learn more and become even stronger in my passion and purpose? Get Plugged In Positive Connections That Make Me Stronger

81. Tool KitH W P L H W P L 1 1 Goal: 2 2 HW P L 5 5 Decisions that get me into trouble... 4 4 My challenges... Home: Peers: Work/School: Legal: = Consequences of my decisions that harm myself and others... 6 6 “Reality” ------ Will I ever obtain LASTING opportunity, freedom, and personal strength on this track with these consequences? 7 7 What problems do I keep having over and over? -Frustrated -Confused -Angry -Scared -I keep getting the same results - Work/School - Peers - Home - Legal 3 3 8 8 STOP! (“Have I had enough?”) or START ride over! 9 9 Who will be my passengers on this track? How will I prepare for this crossroad? 10 11 What will my future be like when I ride here? At home: With my peers: At work/school: Legally: “Reality” What choices will give me... My support system (“Get Plugged In”) - Opportunity - Freedom - Personal Strength Strength My Choices Today Determine My Tomorrow “Hit the wall”

82. Tool Kit Seeing Over The Wall Living With A New View and More Strength What is my current view giving me? Big View Plugging In Lift Weight Maze Hurdles Defense Mech Reality Ride Labels Climbing Out Limited View Failure Drugs Anger Fighting Family Problems Why Try? Who Cares I Can’t Incarceration Opportunity Freedom Personal Strength How has climbing the WhyTry steps created more options for me? 3 3 Only from here will I achieve my goals and dreams. REMEMBER: I know I am on top of the wall when I am helping, not hurting, myself and others! If I am standing here, why is opportunity, freedom, and personal strength hard to see? 1 1 I WILL transform my challenges into personal strength! 2 2 I WILL become stronger by following laws, Rules & expectations! I WILL prove “The Real Me” and overcome my negative labels! I WILL jump over my hurdles and win the race with positive solutions! I WILL endure life’s difficult and confusing hardships until I succeed! I WILL create a strong positive defense by focusing on what I control: my thoughts, feelings, and choices! I WILL identify and hold onto positive family members and friends! I WILL generate light for myself and others by staying plugged into positive connections! I WILL obtain opportunity, freedom, and personal strength on the harder track! Why does this view make me stronger? I believe my motivation to change will go up with each step that I climb! Why is this so? Why do I often fail to see a way out of this position in my life? If I can’t see over the wall, I WILL ask myself, “What step am I tripping on?” I WILL then study and reapply this step in my life.

83. Tool Kit - Lou Holtz “Show me someone that has done something worth while and I’ll show you someone that has overcome adversity.”

84. Tool Kit Ludwig Van Beethoven “Composed his greatest works after becoming deaf.”

85. Tool Kit George Washington “Snowed in through a treacherous winter at valley forge.”

86. Tool Kit Abraham Lincoln “Raised in Poverty”

87. Tool Kit Albert Einstein “Called a slow learner, retarded and uneducable.”

88. Tool Kit Christopher Columbus “Endured constant adversity while discovering the new world”

89. Tool Kit James Earl Jones “Stuttered so badly he communicated with friends and teachers using written notes.”

90. Tool Kit Itzhak Perlman “Born to parents that survived a Nazi concentration camp… has been paralyzed since the age of 4”

91. Tool Kit Chester Carlson “After 7 years of rejections persuaded Haloid to purchase his electrostatic paper copying process. Haloid became Xerox.”

92. Tool Kit Thomas Edison “I never failed once… I invented the light bulb. It just happened to be a 10,000 step process.”

93. Tool Kit Franklin Delano Roosevelt “Stricken with polio at the age of 39.”

94. Tool Kit Gen. Douglas MacArthur “After applying for admission to West Point twice, applied a third time and was accepted… the rest is history.”

95. Tool Kit Lucille Ball “Told by the head instructor of the John Murray Anderson Drama School to try any other profession… any other.”

96. Tool Kit Buddy Holly “Fired by Paul Cohen of the Decca record label. He called Holly the biggest no talent that I have ever worked with”

97. Tool Kit Helen Keller “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved…” “Silver is purified in fire and so are we. It is in the most trying times that our real character is shaped and revealed.”

98. Tool Kit Harvey Mackay “There is no education like the university of adversity”

99. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Personal Strength What might my life look like when I get here? Get Plugged In 8 8 Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 Choice Positive Negative 2 2 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Energy Anger Frustration Sadness