1. Responsibility: Give It to Get It Ralph Whalen, Parents & Students December 2, 2009 Welcome

2. Student Panel Parent Q: Reaction to Students Guidance Adding Responsibilities When Not R. Financial R. Q & A Handouts Next Seminars Evaluation Meeting Overview

3. Goals Connect with others. Learn one idea about responsibility that will help you in your family. Learn from each other.

4. Middle School Students How have responsibilities at school changed from grade three to grade eight? At home? At School? For Self Care? For Others? Grade 8: Carl B. Dominique B. Grade 7: Alex L. Vergil H. Vincent H.

5. Middle School Students What consequences have you “heard” parents use for irresponsible behavior? At home? At School? For Self Care? For Others? Grade 8: Carl B. Dominique B. Grade 7: Alex L. Vergil H. Vincent H.

6. Round Table Discussion Introduce Yourself What did the students say that you think all parents should hear? What surprised you?

7. Why Important Age 18 Competence Confidence Self Esteem

8. Why A Grade Three Unit Preteen Age More Choices Field Trips Camp

9. Grade 3 Teachers’ Expectations Classroom Routines Organize Materials Follow Directions Homework by Yourself Ask for help Control Actions Go Quietly to __ Work time VS Playtime Bonus: Show initiative

10. What Would You Do?

12. Student Sheet

13. Student Sheets Partner Talk: What could you change?

14. More Responsibilities Guidelines Age Safety Ability Family values Cost Rites of passage

15. Giving New Responsibilities Decide what Time for training Model Freedom to fail Watch for Monkeys

16. Irresponsibility Consequences Natural Consequences Logical Consequences

17. Would You Do This?

18. Logical Consequences Link behavior to consequence Goal: to teach Immediacy Testing period Consistency

19. Responsibility Problems Not enough Too much Domestic help Not doing his/her part

20. Partner Discussion Look at the handout. What logical consequence could you use?

21. Social Responsibility

22. Financial Responsibility Spend, Save, Give Trip money Gift money Allowance

23. Purpose Earned or given Age to start Amount Parameters Age to end

24. Q & A

25. Summary Handouts Evaluation Next Year?