1. Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life On Course Chapter 2 ACCEPTING PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY

2. 2 | 2 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. CHOICES OF SUCCESSFUL STUDENTS: ACCEPTING PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY

3. 2 | 3 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. ADOPTING THE CREATOR ROLE FOCUS QUESTIONS What is self-responsibility? Why is it the key to gaining maximum control over the outcomes and experiences of your life?

4. 2 | 4 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. RESPONSIBILITY MODEL

5. 2 | 5 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. MASTERING CREATOR LANGUAGE FOCUS QUESTION How can you create greater success by changing your vocabulary?

6. 2 | 6 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. CHANGING VICTIM LANGUAGE Victim’s Language –Blame self or others –Complain –Make excuses Victim’s Results –Waste time and energy –Seldom achieve desired outcomes & experiences

7. 2 | 7 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Victim Statements –If I weren’t so stupid, I wouldn’t have to take this dumb class again. (Blame self) –I would make the team if the coach was fair. (Blame others) –My teacher won’t accept my paper late. I never get a break from anybody. (Complain) –I didn’t have enough time to do the assignment. (Excuse) CHANGING VICTIM LANGUAGE

8. 2 | 8 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. CHANGING VICTIM LANGUAGE All of these statements are about blaming, complaining and making excuses. None is about taking ownership or action!

9. 2 | 9 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. CHANGING VICTIM LANGUAGE –If I weren’t so stupid, I wouldn’t have to take this dumb class again. –I know I didn’t spend nearly enough time studying last semester. I’m going to study this subject from 3:30 to 4:30 every day. I’ll also go to the tutoring center for two hours on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

10. 2 | 10 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. CHANGING VICTIM LANGUAGE –I would make the team if the coach was fair. –I’m going to increase my strength, speed and skills so I can earn a position on the team.

11. 2 | 11 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. MAKING WISE DECISIONS FOCUS QUESTIONS How can you improve the quality of the decisions you make? How can you take full responsibility for the outcomes and experiences in your life?

12. 2 | 12 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. THE WISE CHOICE PROCESS 1.What’s my present situation? (Identify the problem or difficulty.) 2.How would I like my situation to be? (Define my desired outcomes and experiences.) 3.What are my possible choices? (Without evaluating, make a list of options.)

13. 2 | 13 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. THE WISE CHOICE PROCESS 4.What’s the likely outcome of each possible choice? (Missing information? Stop and get more!) 5.Which choice(s) will I commit to doing? (Make a promise to myself.) 6.When and how will I evaluate my plan? (Assess my results.)

14. 2 | 14 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: CHANGE YOUR INNER CONVERSATION FOCUS QUESTION How can you raise your self-esteem by changing your self-talk?

15. 2 | 15 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. STINKIN’ THINKIN’ “ You mainly make yourself needlessly and neurotically miserable by strongly holding absolutist irrational Beliefs, especially by rigidly believing unconditional shoulds, oughts, and musts. ” - Albert Ellis, psychologist What do you think Ellis mean by “ absolutist irrational Beliefs ” ? Examples?

16. 2 | 16 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Examples of Inner Critic’s STINKIN’ THINKIN’ I ’ m dumb. I’m a failure. I ’ m worthless. I can’t learn math. I ’ m a lousy parent. No one will like me. I can ’ t remember stuff. If I ask a question, I’ll look like a jerk.

17. 2 | 17 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Examples of Inner Defender’s STINKIN’ THINKIN’ People are always mean to me. People don’t treat me right; they’re rotten. People don’t agree with my ideas because they’re too stupid to understand them. Life isn’t fair; I never get an even break. Teachers always have their favorites and those students get all the breaks. No one knows what they’re doing. Life stinks.

18. 2 | 18 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. A + B = C Activating Event + Beliefs = Consequences

19. 2 | 19 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Belief Student #1 My instructor thinks I’m dumb. I’ll never get a college degree. I’m a failure in life. Belief Student #2 My instructor won’t help me. Teachers don’t care about students. Belief Student #3 I’m not sure what went wrong. Sometimes things just don’t turn out the way you plan. There’s always tomorrow. Activating Event: Instructor wasn’t there for my appointment.

20. 2 | 20 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Student # 1 Got depressed, and watched television all evening. Student # 2 Got angry and spent the night telling friends how horrible the instructor is. Student # 3 Studied for another class. Planned to call the instructor the next day to see what happened and set up a new appointment. Which student’s consequences moved him closer to positive outcomes and experiences? Consequences:

21. 2 | 21 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Activating Event Instructor didn’t show up for a scheduled conference. Belief I’m not sure what went wrong. Sometimes things just don’t turn out the way you plan. There’s always tomorrow. Consequence Studied for another class. Planned to call the instructor the next day to see what happened and set up a new appointment. A + B = C Activating Event + Beliefs = Consequences

22. 2 | 22 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. REFUTING IRRATIONAL BELIEFS Offer evidence that your judgments are incorrect Offer a positive explanation of the problem. Question the importance of the problem. If judgments are true, offer a plan to improve the situation.

23. 2 | 23 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. WISE CHOICES IN COLLEGE: READING Reading an assignment in college requires a greater degree of involvement and effort than reading a magazine or newspaper; you need to become an active reader. What do you think are some of the choices of an active reader?

24. 2 | 24 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. WISE CHOICES IN COLLEGE: READING What do you Collect through Reading? Key Concepts Important Ideas Supporting Details

25. 2 | 25 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. WISE CHOICES IN COLLEGE: READING What is the key concept of Chapter Two? Accepting Personal Responsibility What are the important ideas? Adopting the Creator Role Mastering Creator Language Making Wise Decisions

26. 2 | 26 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. WISE CHOICES IN COLLEGE: READING Self-Talk Inner Critic Inner Defender Inner Guide The Language of Responsibility Ownership & a Plan What are the supporting details for “ Mastering Creator Language?"

27. 2 | 27 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Adopting the Creator Role Making Wise Decisions Mastering Creator Language KEY CHOICES FOR ACCEPTING SELF-RESPONSIBILITY

28. 2 | 28 Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. TICKET OUT What do you like most about the notion of accepting self-responsibility? Explain briefly.