1. MONDAY, DEC.7 TH /WEDNESDAY, DEC. 9TH “LISTENING AND LEARNING” Be The One: Mentor Training “Listening is love; that’s really what it is.” ---Brenda Ueland

2. Initial Connection Activity Nancy McHarness Sheila Goldsmith Share a success you have had being a mentor. What are hoping to learn today? “You have two eyes and two ears, but only one mouth. This is so because you are supposed to look and listen more than you talk.” ---Lucca Kaldahl

3. Lesson Focus Curtis Atneosen/Trainer Brief Review (November Training) Continuum: Failure Identity vs. Success Identity Basic Needs: Love, Power, Fun, Freedom “You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.” --M. Scott Peck

4. Lesson Focus Friends vs Enemies of Caring Relationships FriendsEnemies ListeningCriticizing SupportingBlaming EncouragingComplaining RespectingNagging TrustingThreatening AcceptingPunishing Negotiating ConflictBribing/Control “Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer.”

5. Lesson Focus Listening, listening, listening! Why? Mentees tell us over and over again how important it is to them to have someone listen. It makes them feel respected and valued. Sometimes it’s all we can do to help! How? Active Listening involves uses all of our “senses” and requires us to be fully present. “Listening looks easy, but it is not simple.” --Cuban Proverb

6. Application Activity The magic of listening! “Listening has the quality of the wizard’s alchemy. It has the power to melt armor and produce beauty.” –Brian Muldin

7. Break Time! Enjoy a snack and conversation with someone new! “One who cares is one who listens.” --- J. Richard Clarke

8. Positive Feedback Mentor/Mentee stories from their interviews (Lisa) Stories from this last month “People start to heal the moment they feel heard.” --Cheryl Richardson

9. Question/Answer Time What questions do you have for us? What issues are coming up for you in your relationships with your students? Other things you are wondering about? “The best listeners listen between the lines.” —Nina Malkin

10. Conclusion Announcements: You are the One!  Thank you  Year end giving/ current sponsors  T-shirt sales  Lighted Parade  Basketball Games  Assemblies  Lunch time Appreciation/wrap up January’s Training: “Reframing Thought Patterns” See you then! “Listen, or your tongue will keep you deaf.” --Native American Proverb