2. Questions to Consider  How does your background influence the way you communicate?  What is self-esteem? How does self-esteem affect communication?  What is self-concept? How does self-concept affect communication?  What kind of information is appropriate to share with others about yourself? What is not? Why is some okay to share and not others?

3. What has shaped you?  We’re going to make a Johari Window/Culture Diagram to get some insight into who you are.

4. The Open Quadrant  This includes information that you and others know about yourself.  This includes your obvious physical appearance, the language you speak, and things you’ve said and done in public.  Male/Female  English – Midwest accent  Tall/short  Kind of clothes you wear

5. What has shaped you?  We’re going to make a Johari Window/Culture Diagram to get some insight into who you are.

6. The Blind Quadrant  Includes things about you that are known to others, but not to you.  These include the way your voice actually sounds, how you look from behind, the intensity of your gaze, your nervous tics, and other behaviors you are not aware of.  Twirl hair when nervous.  Have a little bounce in your step.  Snort when you laugh.  Say “like” every 5 words.

7. What has shaped you?

8. The Hidden Quadrant  Contains your tastes, preferences, thoughts, beliefs, fears, and anything that others won’t know unless you tell them.  Favorite foods  Favorite movies  Religious beliefs  Political beliefs  Fear of spiders

9. What has shaped you?

10. The Unknown Quadrant  Comprises things about you that neither you nor others are aware of.  These could include your motivations, undiscovered talents, and psychological complexities.  What kind of spouse you would be  Motivated by money  Could play the piano if given the opportunity  What kind of parent you would be

11. What has shaped you?

12. Cultural Box  List the things that are part of your cultural background. These include where you grew up, your family dynamics, traditions in your family, what people in your family did for a living, etc.  Grew up in Nevada, Iowa  Have two parents and two brothers  Am the youngest child  Go to Grandma’s every year for big Thanksgiving feast  Parents work at Burke

13. What has shaped you? Average height Middle-aged female European descent Midwestern accent Like all kinds of music Have a large family Princess Bride fan Likes disutopian stories Crochets Kind of bounce up and down when I walk. Clasp hands. Chew gum loudly. Hide in a hostage situation? Volunteer a lot in retirement? Play piano? Parents married (dad divorced before). Parents both college-educated. Church on Sundays. Middle class upbringing. Many military members in family. Large families.

14. Self-Concept  Your self-concept is how you see yourself. Highlight/underline the parts of your Johari Window that are a part of your self-concept.  Would you say you have a positive, neutral or negative self-concept?

15. Self-Esteem  Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself.  Highlight in a different color/circle the things on the Johari window that influence your self-esteem.  Would you say you have a high, medium or low self-esteem?

16. Self-concept & Self-esteem  What is the relationship between your self-esteem and self-concept for you individually?  How has anything on your Johari window, your self-concept and/or self-esteem influenced you as a communicator?

17. Self-Awareness  So what do we do with all that information in this class?  Be honest in evaluating yourself on speeches.  Recognize your limits and take credit for your strengths in speeches.  Be realistic in setting goals: should you really get an A if you never look at your audience during a speech? Should you really get an F just because you mispronounced one word?  Be supportive of your own efforts.  Be supportive of the efforts of others.  Be forgiving of your own faults and those of others.

18. Activity  Write yourself an affirmation of one of your communication strengths.  Make a goal for yourself to improve one of your weaknesses in communication.  Specific  Measurable  Attainable  Realistic  Timely

19. Self-Disclosure  Self-disclosure has benefits, but you need to weigh the benefits against the risks before you share.  Need to be in an established relationship with trust.  Make sure the receiver wants to hear your self- disclosure.  Don’t share more than the other person will or already shared.  NEVER make fun of someone who’s sharing feelings with you.

20. Activity  With a partner, you will select a scenario.  You will decide in this situation whether the sender should make a disclosure or not. If so, let us know any euphemisms that might be appropriate.  Be prepared to tell us why the sender should or should not self-disclose.