2. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens
Sharpen the Saw
Synergize
Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Think Win-Win
Put First Things First
Begin with the End in Mind
Be Proactive

3. Habit 4: Think Win-Win A revision
Think Win-Lose: The Totem Pole
Think Lose-Win: The doormat
Think Lose-Lose: The downward spiral
Think Win-Win All-You-Can-Eat Buffet

4. A Win-Win Story: Give her the ball
Mavis and Pam are good friends
Both of them are good basketball shooters; but Mavis did a bit better

5. A Win-Win Story: Give her the ball
However, Mavis found Pam occasional kept the ball and did not pass the ball to her even she was open.
They did bad in the competitions.

6. A Win-Win Story: Give her the ball
Mavis told her father after lost a game: I will not give the ball to Pam anymore; I have to beat her in the game.
Mavis’ father said: Give her the ball.

7. A Win-Win Story: Give her the ball
In the next game, every time when Mavis held up the ball, an inner voice shouted to her: ‘Give her the ball’.
Mavis followed the inner voice and passed the ball to Pam.

8. A Win-Win Story: Give her the ball
Imagine the outcome: In the second half, Pam tried to pass the ball to Mavis again.
Both of them got more points than before.
They won the game
They earned back their friendship.

9. How to think Win-Win Win the Private Victory first
Avoid the Tumor Twins: Competition and Comparing

10. Win the Private Victory
Are you feeling insecure?
Is it hard for you to be happy for other people’s successes?
Is it difficult for you to share praise and recognition?
Are you easy to get jealous?
 Win the private victory first

11. Win the Private Victory
Start with yourself
Make deposits into the PBA
Take responsibility for your life
Get a plan in place
Build confidence and security
Then deposits into the RBA

12. Story of Paul and Mary
Paul: Mary, who was the guy you were talking to just now?
Mary: He’s just a good friend I grew up with.
Paul: I don’t want you hanging out with that guy.
Mary: Paul, he’s just a friend I’ve known for a long time. We went to elementary school together.

13. Story of Paul and Mary
Paul: I don’t care how long you’ve known him. You shouldn’t be so friendly to him.
Mary: It’s no big deal. He’s having some problems and just needs a friend.
Paul: Are you committed to me or not?
Mary: OK, Paul. If that’s what you want, I won’t talk to him anymore.

14. What do you think?
What do you think about the relationship between Paul and Mary?

15. Avoid the Tumor Twins: Competing
Competition can be extremely healthy
It drives us to improve, to reach and stretch
BUT, if competition is used as a means of creating a self-image relative to others, the worst in a person comes out.
It is a win-at-any-cost attitude

16. Avoid the Tumor Twins: Competing

17. Avoid the Tumor Twins: Comparing
Comparing is competition’s twin. It is cancerous.
We are all different.
We are on different development timetables: socially, mentally, physically.
You are not the richest, the wisest, the smartest, then so what?

18. The growth of a bamboo tree

19. Avoid the Tumor Twins: Comparing
Comparing yourself can become an addiction as strong as drugs or alcohol
Don’t compare yourself to others; but comparing yourself against your own potential

20. Think Win-Win; Act Win-Win
Susan and Amy are sisters
Both of them hate washing dishes but enjoy walking the dogs

21. How to Think Win-Win and Act Win-Win
Susan washed the dishes and Amy dried the dishes
They walked the dogs together

22. Reflection
Think of a person who you feel is a model of Win-Win. What is it about this person you admire?