1. LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING Chapter 4 – Teachings on Love by Thich Nhat Hanh

2. Love and Understanding Three exercises  May I/he/she/they learn to look at myself with the eyes of understanding and love  May I/he/she/they be able to recognize and touch the seeds of joy and happiness  May I/he/she/they learn to identify and see the sources of anger, craving and delusion

3. Love and Understanding  Mechanism of the thinking process, the speaking process and action process Event Attention Hear Witness Appropriate Inappropriate Action Speech Conflict Pleasant Beneficial Harmful Mindfulness

4. Mind, Speech and Physical Actions Mind Physical Actions Mind is like a monkey. Need to shine the light of mindfulness and prevent our mind from wandering down paths of inappropriate attetion Speech Use mindfulness to illuminate our speech Can be beneficial or harmful. Understanding is to open the door of love & accept yourself and others

5. How to meditate “Recognize and touch the seeds of joy and happiness in myself”. When our practice become solid, we make others the object of our love meditation:  Meditate on some one neutral  Meditate on some one you love  Meditate on some one you hate, e.g. the enemy

6. Master our own anger  When anger rises, return to yourself and use mindfulness to embrace, soothe, illuminate.  Seven reasons (not to be angry): make us ugly, suffer, no flourish, lose the happiness, known for our anger, lose friends, not ake part in joyful sangha  Look deeply at your anger as you would at your own child. Conscious breathing calms your anger.

7. Five kinds of situation 1. Act badly but not speak, irritate us 2. Speak badly, but act friendly and helpful 3. Actions and words are both unpleasant 4. Actions, words and thoughts are all unwholesome 5. Actions, speech and thoughts are all wholesome