1. Unit 2 Healthy Relationships OUTCOME 7.4: DEMONSTRATE A PERSONALIZED AND COHERENT UNDERSTANDING OF THE IMPORTANCE OF NURTURING HARMONY IN RELATIONSHIPS (WITH SELF, OTHERS, AND THE ENVIRONMENT), AND APPLY EFFECTIVE STRATEGIES TO RE/ESTABLISH HARMONY WHEN CONFLICT ARISES.

2. Big Questions  1. What is conflict?  2. What feelings do we have when we are in conflict?

3. Important Terms  Conflict: To be in or come into opposition  Emotional Conflict : Conflict with an outside source in a nonphysical way such as teasing, bullying, disappointing someone or arguing  Mental Conflict: Conflict within yourself, usually over right or wrong. Fighting negative feelings about yourself.  Physical Conflict: Physical Fighting

4. Disagreement vs. Conflict

5. Big Questions  1. What is a disagreement?  2. How can a disagreement be a normal part of any relationship?  3. How can our personalities turn a disagreement into a conflict?

6. Being Yourself  Differences make people interesting, not threatening  We don‘t all feel things the same way  We have to know who we are, respect that and respect that others feel things differently too  Sometimes if our personalities are too strong and stubborn, they can lead to conflict

7. Disagreement vs Conflict  Disagreement: The act of having a different opinion or opposing thought  The difference between conflict and disagreement is the negativity surrounding it. Conflict is typically based on a dislike or negative opinion and is typically taken out more irrationally.  Conflict is more like a power struggle, whereas disagreement is typically just a different opinion, expressed in a healthy and positive way.

8. Learning Activity  1. Read the situation: James’ son Ben plays hockey for a team in town. James has noticed that although Ben never misses a practice he has not played more than 2 minutes of the last 5 games. James is upset and is going into speak with the coach. The coach believes that although Ben is a nice kid, he’s bringing the team down when he’s on the ice because of his lack of skill. James is very upset.  2. Write an explanation of how this situation would play out if James and the coach had an emotional conflict.  3. Write an explanation of how this situation would play out if James and the coach had a disagreement.  4. Write which you feel is more effective and why.

9. Dealing With Conflict

10. Big Questions  1. What are some ways you can deal with conflict?  2. How can improving your communication skills help you handle conflict/  3. How can conflict lead to abuse?

11. Behaviour  Passive Behaviour: Accepting what happens without questioning or discussing when it is something you may or may not agree with  Assertive Behaviour: Standing up for self in a calm, confident and reasonable manner  Aggressive Behaviour: Behaving with hostility and anger  Which is the best behavior to use in a conflict and why?

12. Conflict Resolution

13. Strategies for Dealing with Conflict 1. Passively: Giving in despite what you want or think is right 2. Aggressively: Forcing your opinion regardless of any consequences or feelings 3. Anger Management: Recognizing symptoms of anger and knowing how to control those feelings before they escalate into something hurtful 4. Negotiating: by offering solutions and ideas from both sides to reach an agreement

14. 5. Compromising: To meet in the middle, which means you give up what you care about the least and get what you care about the most 6. Mediating: Getting help from someone who isn’t part of the conflict.

15. Peer Pressure