1. Communication & Peer Relationships

2. Listen to the following… On a blank piece of paper, listen to the directions and draw.

4. PURPOSE OF ACTIVITY: EVERYONE INTREPRETS THINGS DIFFERENTLY, even when the directions/circumstances are the same. If you are not specific or clear things can be taken differently than you had intended.

5. Communication The process of sharing information, thoughts, or feelings. Communication occurs whenever you use words, sounds, gestures, or body movements to interact with other people.

6. Effective Communication 1. Active Listening 2. I-Message 3. Body Language 4. Assertiveness

7. Active Listening Focus your full attention on what the other person is saying. Show interest and understanding by nodding your head. Make eye contact Offer comments such as, “I know what you mean” Don’t steer the conversation away from them and onto you Show you were listening by summarizing their thoughts, “It sounds like you are angry because…”

8. I-Message Is a statement of feelings and expectations that does not blame or judge the other person. In order to communicate effectively, you must be able to take ownership over your own feelings. Ex: “I am upset that you did not call last night” Focusing on yourself and how the situation made you feel, without placing blame on the other person.

9. Body Language Communicating information or feelings nonverbally through body movements, posture, gestures, and facial expressions. People can be unaware of the messages sent by their body language. Can send mixed messages when your “listening” and texting…

10. Refusal and Resistance Skills Refusal Skills: a strategy to avoid doing something you don’t want to do. Suggest something else. Assertive Communication: honest expressions of thoughts and feelings without threatening others. You are cool, calm, and collected BUT still get your point across. Clearly state the word “no” and don’t waiver in your decision.

11. Do Now Think about a conflict that you have recently had with someone. What did you do to resolve the conflict? What could you have done differently in the whole situation? Could having better communication skills help the conflict resolve faster?

12. Conflict Resolution and Responding to Peer Pressure Assertive: Express your true feelings and standing up for your own rights in a way that does not threaten the other person or make them feel uncomfortable. **Think about the consequences, and STATE them in your reason. Passive: Holding back your true feelings and giving in, or backing down. Aggressive: Communicate your opinions and feelings in a way that may seem threatening, disrespectful, overly forceful, and hostile towards others.

13. Scenario : Jessica is taking a final exam and has prepared for it by studying for several days. Her boyfriend, Collin, is sitting next to her, he whispers to her that he studied the wrong thing. Collin is sure Jessica will give him the answers. Jessica’s grade on this exam is very important to her. She needs a high grade in order to keep the scholarship to college she has been offered. If she loses the scholarship, then she cannot go to college. Collin will not graduate if he fails this class. The final exam counts for a large portion of the final grade for the class. Jessica knows that if she doesn’t help Collin, he will be very mad at her and probably will break up with her. How would you handle this situation if you were Jessica? Be specific with details. Give an example of how Jessica would respond if she was being Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive

14. Peer Pressure Peer Pressure: the control and influence people your age may have over you. There are different forms of peer pressure Spoken Pressure Unspoken Peer Pressure

15. Peer Pressure Peer pressure evokes a broad range of feelings— Positive: pride, importance, belonging, etc. Negative: confusion, insecurity, isolation, etc. Why do people give in to peer pressure? to improve social or academic standing to broaden their group of friends or acquaintances to attract or deflect attention to avoid negative repercussions to attract positive feedback to learn something

16. Do Now! Think about some of the groups or cliques that you have seen here at Summit High Where do you fit, within these groups? What are the stereotypes of each?

17. Manipulation: a sneaky or dishonest way to control or influence others. Ex: using guilt-person makes you feel bad for not doing what they want you to do he said, she said-person tells you what someone else said was the “right things to do” confronting statement-start an argument to then make you feel bad over something you didn’t do or say but for which you should feel guilty for self-pity- the person makes you feel sorry for them for being a victim, unloved, sick, etc. Manipulation

18. What can you do if you think you are being manipulated? Remove yourself if the situation becomes dangerous suggest alternative things to do do your best to avoid situations where pressure to make unhealthy decisions may become a problem If possible, avoid individuals who use manipulation tactics

19. Prejudice, Stereotypes, & Cliques Stereotypes: an exaggerated or generalized belief about an entire group of people, such as an ethnic group, religious group, or gender. Prejudice: is a negative feeling towards someone or something that is not based on personal experience but based on a stereotype. Cliques: a narrow exclusive group of people with similar backgrounds and interests. Often members experience peer pressure to conform to the expectations of the clique. Advantages and Disadvantages?

20. Effective Communication and “Mean Girls”

21. Mean Girls 9:12 minute mark—20:00 22:50—25:30 29:00—33:00 (4-way calling scene)51:00----55:00 1:17:30--end

22. “Mean Girls” Lets learn from it…You will be responsible for providing examples from the Movie on the Quiz for this unit. Think about the following terms and look for them within the movie. Take notice how they are used well or not used well. Also, take any notes that you think may help you. Active ListeningCliques AssertivenessRelationships StereotypesPeer Pressure “I message”Manipulation Body LanguageRefusal Skills Cooperation Compromise

23. “Guilt by Association” The people you hang out with and associate yourself with impacts your reputation. Associate with people who have qualities and characteristics you want to represent you.

24. Do Now Analyze the friendships/relationships that you have seen so far in Mean Girls Cady and Regina Cady and Janice/Damien Cady and Aaron Samuels Cady and Gretchen/Karen Are they healthy relationships? Why or Why not? How would you categorize a healthy friendship? Healthy relationship?

25. Mean Girls Assessment Using your notes from the movie, write about at least 3 of the following communication topics. -Active Listening -Cliques -Cooperation -Compromise -Refusal Skills -Body Language -Assertiveness-Relationships -Manipulation -“I message”-Peer Pressure -Stereotypes For each example, you are expected: define the term provide an example of it that was in the movie explain whether the example was healthy or unhealthy and why.