1. ‘How to.......’ Love your neighbour as yourself

2. CONFLICT

3. Communication + Consequences “A gentle answer turns away wrath” Prov 15:1 “A hot tempered man stirs up dissension but a patient man calms a quarrel” Prov 15:18 “A man finds joy in giving an apt reply....how good is a timely word” Prov 15:23 “The wise in heart are called discerning and pleasant words promote instruction”lt Prov 16:21

4. Over-react or obstinate “The heart of the righteous weighs its answers” Prov 15: 28

5. Negative comments or negotiation “Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God” Matt 5: 9

6. Forgiveness and Forgetting “If you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins your heavenly Father will not forgive your sins.”

7. LOVE and listening “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and and with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength. The second is this: Love your neighbour as yourself”.

8. Insecurity and inside feelings

9. Calmness and Control Fruit of the Spirit – self-control “The sinful nature desires what is contrary to the spirit and the spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature” Gal 5:22

10. Truce or Triumph Seek peace and pursue it !

11. Twins – jostled with each other Gen 25:22

12. Jacob – quiet man Esau – skilful hunter

13. The blessing of the first born

14. Revelation of God God’s presence: If......you will be MY God !

16. Jacob – family and livestock Was deceived himself – experienced what that felt like

17. Extensive prep to meet his brother Fear + distress

18. Re-union Esau ran to meet him, threw his arms around him, kissed him and..... WEPT! Both ready to make peace Both had been provided for by God God at work to fulfil HIS purposes

19. Anger/ Frustration In your anger do not sin

20. “ Conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel” Phil 1:27 Unity of the spirit in the bond of peace Eph 4:3

21. Qualities Patience – bear with each other Humility v Pride The perspective of another – work at understanding /Marriages Mercy – God’s unending mercy receive and give. Allow some leeway.................................................................................. Peace – keep peace in your own life. STOP! Repair.

22. So..... Little disputes can grow/ escalate into huge wars Work at being Peacemakers in family, work, church Speak truthfully – NOT brutally!! Live at peace with everyone Rom 12:18......................................................................................................... Please Lord give us your power to do this