1. Motivate: 1 James W. Robertson, II, BS, LSW Program Director, SMA coachjayrob@gmail.com 507-250-6444 Surviving in the Youth Work Trenches

2. 2 “What’s My Motivation”  Motivation is  Starts with a motive  Your Motive is WHY!!  Your Why get you EXCITED!!  “Excitation”  Creating conditions ripe for learning

3. 3 Let’s Start with WHY!! WHY did YOU get into Youth Work?  Your WHY is “The Center of YOUR Youth Work”  Purpose & Intentionality  If your Why is off…Your Work is off!

4. Verna’ Myers says: 4 “Authenticity is standing in your own truth.” Do you feel as if you are standing in your own truth?

5. What is Heart Impact 5 It is the ability to connect with others by: Gaining an understanding of what matters to others Gaining an understanding of how others are affected by STUFF!

6. What Heart Impact Really Does: 6 It helps me stay in my “WHY” Connects me to the reason I am there.

7. 7 The 4 Questions of Heart Impact How am I connected to this purpose? What is the purpose for my behavior? What do I love about what I do? Is what I am doing feeding my heart?

8. Purpose Innovation Motivation Direction Where? Where are you taking your WHY? Focus on Your WHY?

9. Body Mind Heart Social Burnout Depletion 4 Personal Resource Areas: Movement Run Exercise 30 Sec Activity 5 P Focus Focus on Present Priority Positive Process Purpose Why is the Focus Four Thought Assess Thinking Assess Emotion/Connection Assess Need Assess Ability Learning in Relationship Don’t Need to Be’s

10. Tool 1: Four-thought Assessment 10 1.Assess your level of thought (Give me a second…) a)Suspend thoughts for 4 seconds, let first wave of emotion pass b)Stop thinking about your stuff 2.Assess how the level of emotion or connection (How we feeling?) a)Understand where you are emotionally b)Understand their state of mind i.Are they mad, frustrated, annoyed, sad, in shock 3.Assess what the other person is asking for (What’s needed?) a)R.U.N. the situation b)Reframe, Unhook, New Action 4.Assess my ability to meet this person’s needs and take appropriate action (Can I help?)

11. Tool 2: R.U.N 11 1.Reframe the situation a)in a way that helps you have maximum control of your feelings, b)so that you understand it clearly c)while considering your limitations to solving the problem 2.Unhook yourself from a)undue responsibility b)toxic feelings c)preconceived perceptions 3.New Action – Take any new action a)according to what is appropriate based on the information you have b)New action consists of new feelings, perceptions, expectations, thinking, behavior

12. The GROW Model Coaching team members to improve performance

13. A.One key role of any leader is to coach team members to achieve their best. a) As "coach", you will typically help your team members to i. solve problems, ii. make better decisions, iii. learn new skills or iv.otherwise progress in their role or career. B.One proven approach that helps with this it the GROW model. a)GROW is an acronym standing for i. Goal – ii.Current Reality – iii. Options – iv. Will. C.The model is a simple yet powerful framework for structuring a coaching session. The GROW Model Coaching team members to improve performance

14. A.Define and agree the goal or outcome to be achieved. a)Define goals that are: i.Specific ii.Measurable iii.Realistic B.In doing this, it is useful to ask questions like: a)"How will you know that you have achieved that goal?“ b)"How will you know the problem is solved?” Establish the Goal: 1. First, you start with a the map: With this, you help your team member decide where they are going (their Goal)

15. A.This is a very important step: a)Too often, people try to solve a problem without fully considering their starting point, b)Often they are missing some of the information they need to solve the problem effectively. i.As the team member tells you about his or her Current Reality, the solution may start to emerge. B.Useful coaching questions include: a)"What is happening now?” b)"What, who, when, how often” c)"What is the effect or result of that?" Examine Current Reality: 2. Describe and establish where they currently are (their Current Reality).

16. A.It's time to explore what is possible – what possible options for solving the problem. a)Help your SA generate many good options b)Discuss those options. B.Offer your own suggestions a)Let your team member offer his or hers first, b)Let him or her do most of the talking. c)Don’t solve the problem C. Typical questions used to establish the options are: a)"What else could you do?” b)"What if this or that constraint were removed? c)"What are the benefits and downsides of each option?” d)"What factors will you use to weigh up the options? Explore the Options: 3.Then you explore various ways (the Options) of making the journey, by examining Current Reality.

17. A.Your SA will now have a good idea of how he or she can achieve their Goal. B.Final step as coach is to get you team member to commit to specific action. a)In so doing, you will help the team member establish his or her will and motivation. C.Useful questions: a)"So what will you do now. and when? b)"What could stop you moving forward?” c)"And how will you overcome it?” d)"Will this address your goal?” e)"How likely is this option to succeed?” f)"What else will you do?" Establish the Will: 4.In the final step, establishing the Will, ensures your team member is committed and is prepared for the conditions or obstacles they may have to face.

18. G.R.O.W. Box G Outcome What is the Goal? How do this e/affect me? What gets in the way? How this make me feel? W Act What Will I do or commit to? How do I get out of the box? What outcome am I looking for? O Strategize What Options do I have? What will my actions do? What did the person do? R Identify What is the Reality? Why am I in the box? What is the problem? Am I seeing this the right way? 1. Useful questions: "So what will you do now. and when? "What could stop you moving forward?" "And how will you overcome it?" "Will this address your goal?" "How likely is this option to succeed?" "What else will you do?"

19. The GROW Box G Outcome What is the Goal? ___________________ W Act What Will I do or commit to? _______________________ O Strategize What Options do I have? ___________________ R Identify What is the Reality? _________________________