1. Godly Homes do not come by accident. n Anything good we do have is a result of the application of God’s wisdom. (James 1:5 Prov 4:5-7; Prov 5:1-3)

2. Godly Homes do not come by accident. n James 1:5 (NKJV) - If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.

3. Godly Homes do not come by accident. n Proverbs 4:5-7 (NKJV) - Get wisdom! Get understanding! Do not forget, nor turn away from the words of my mouth. 6 Do not forsake her, and she will preserve you; Love her, and she will keep you. 7 Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding.

4. Godly Homes do not come by accident. n Proverbs 5:1-3 (NKJV) - My son, pay attention to my wisdom; Lend your ear to my understanding, 2 That you may preserve discretion, And your lips may keep knowledge. 3 For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, And her mouth is smoother than oil;

5. Godly Homes do not come by accident. n Anything good we do have is a result of the application of God’s wisdom. (James 1:5 Prov 4:5-7; Prov 5:1-3) n The influence of our society is strong.

6. Godly Homes do not come by accident. n Anything good we do have is a result of the application of God’s wisdom. (James 1:5 Prov 4:5-7; Prov 5:1-3) n The influence of our society is strong. n What is the common theme in movies? Just fall in love, get married and all is well!

7. Godly Homes do not come by accident. n Anything good we do have is a result of the application of God’s wisdom. (James 1:5 Prov 4:5-7; Prov 5:1-3) n The influence of our society is strong. n What is the common theme in movies? Just fall in love, get married and all is well! n The future of the church is a stake

8. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person eligible to marry? (Mt 19:9)

9. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Matthew 19:9 (NKJV) - And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”

10. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person eligible to marry? (Mt 19:9) –Those who have never married.

11. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person eligible to marry? (Mt 19:9) –Those who have never married. –Those whose mate has died.

12. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person eligible to marry? (Mt 19:9) –Those who have never married. –Those whose mate has died. –Those who have put away their mate for the cause of fornication.

13. Some “Minimum” Considerations n It is extremely foolish to date or keep close company with someone who is not eligible for marriage.

14. Some “Minimum” Considerations n It is extremely foolish to date or keep close company with someone who is not eligible for marriage. n How many times have I heard “We are just friends” turn into something more.

15. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person a Christian?

16. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person a Christian? n Can anyone deny the strength in two faithful Christians serving God? (Luke 1:6)

17. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Luke 1:6 (NKJV) - And they were both righteous before God, walking in all the commandments and ordinances of the Lord blameless.

18. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person a Christian? n Can anyone deny the strength in two faithful Christians serving God? (Luke 1:6) n Paul did not think in terms of marrying anyone else. (1 Cor 9:5)

19. Some “Minimum” Considerations n 1 Corinthians 9:5 (NKJV) - Do we have no right to take along a believing wife, as do also the other apostles, the brothers of the Lord, and Cephas?

20. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person a Christian? n Can anyone deny the strength in two faithful Christians serving God? (Luke 1:6) n Paul did not think in terms of marrying anyone else. (1 Cor 9:5) n A marriage between a Christian and a non- Christian is regulated by the word of God and therefore is acceptable. (1 Pet 3:1-2, 7)

21. Some “Minimum” Considerations n 1 Peter 3:1-2 (NKJV) - Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.)

22. Some “Minimum” Considerations n 1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV) - Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

23. Some “Minimum” Considerations Non-ChristiansChristians

24. Non-ChristiansChristians 79

25. Non-ChristiansChristians 7964

26. Non-ChristiansChristians 7964 57 – Left the church

27. Some “Minimum” Considerations Non-ChristiansChristians 7964 57 – Left the church 5 - Left the church

28. Some “Minimum” Considerations Non-ChristiansChristians 7964 57 – Left the church 5 - Left the church 22 – Faithful Christians

29. Some “Minimum” Considerations Non-ChristiansChristians 7964 57 – Left the church 5 - Left the church 22 – Faithful Christians 59 - Faithful Christians

30. Some “Minimum” Considerations Non-ChristiansChristians 7964 57 – Left the church 5 - Left the church 22 – Faithful Christians 59 - Faithful Christians 14 – Converted Mate

31. Some “Minimum” Considerations Non-ChristiansChristians 7964 57 – Left the church 5 - Left the church 22 – Faithful Christians 59 - Faithful Christians 14 – Converted Mate 64 - Christians

32. Some “Minimum” Considerations Non-ChristiansChristians 7964 57 – Left the church 5 - Left the church 22 – Faithful Christians 59 - Faithful Christians 14 – Converted Mate 64 - Christians 25 - Divorced

33. Some “Minimum” Considerations Non-ChristiansChristians 7964 57 – Left the church 5 - Left the church 22 – Faithful Christians 59 - Faithful Christians 14 – Converted Mate 64 - Christians 25 - Divorced 2 - Divorced

34. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Does this person have proper ambition? (Eph 4:28)

35. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Does this person have proper ambition? (Eph 4:28) –Many homes have been destroyed because of immaturity in money matters.

36. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Does this person have proper ambition? (Eph 4:28) –Many homes have been destroyed because of immaturity in money matters. –Does this one value the God given role of the man and the woman?

37. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Does this person show proper respect? (Prov 13:20)

38. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Does this person show proper respect? (Prov 13:20) –If this one always blames his parents and others for his lot in life, watch out!

39. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Does this person show proper respect? (Prov 13:20) –If this one always blames his parents and others for his lot in life, watch out! –Often times the attitude displayed in immaturity towards those in authority will be displayed towards you in marriage when you want to act responsibly.

40. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person dependable? (Eph 4:25)

41. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Ephesians 4:25 (NKJV) - Therefore, putting away lying, “Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor,” for we are members of one another.

42. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person dependable? (Eph 4:25) –Marriage is built upon trust. If he will lie to others, he will lie to you.

43. Some “Minimum” Considerations n Is this person dependable? (Eph 4:25) –Marriage is built upon trust. If he will lie to others, he will lie to you. –There is a teamwork in marriage that causes each mate to do their part. What if he is self centered?

44. Other Considerations n Is this one jealous or unusually possessive?

45. Other Considerations n Is this one jealous or unusually possessive? –Jealousy and fear can create a prison within the marriage.

46. Other Considerations n Is this one jealous or unusually possessive? –Jealousy and fear can create a prison within the marriage. –Do you want a mate or a self centered parent?

47. Other Considerations n Is this one flirty?

48. Other Considerations n Is this one flirty? –Sadly there are many who will follow up on the offer to sin. (Heb 13:4)

49. Other Considerations n Hebrews 13:4 (NKJV) - Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but Fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

50. Other Considerations n Is this one flirty? –Sadly there are many who will follow up on the offer to sin. (Heb 13:4) –Does this action build the trust that is essential in marriage?

51. Other Considerations n Is this one quick tempered? (Eph 4:31; 6:4)

52. Other Considerations n Ephesians 4:31 (NKJV) - Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.

53. Other Considerations n Ephesians 6:4 (NKJV) - And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

54. Other Considerations n Is this one quick tempered? (Eph 4:31; 6:4) –The display of uncontrolled anger in the home causes enormous damage.

55. Other Considerations n Is this one quick tempered? (Eph 4:31; 6:4) –The display of uncontrolled anger in the home causes enormous damage. –We have minimized this danger, but God has not. (Gal 5:19-21)

56. Other Considerations n Is this one a big spender?

57. Other Considerations n Is this one a big spender? –The pressures to pay the bills in a marriage are great.

58. Other Considerations n Is this one a big spender? –The pressures to pay the bills in a marriage are great. –Many marriage problems lie in the proper communication and consideration of each other in this area.

59. Other Considerations n Is this one disobedient to parents?

60. Other Considerations n Is this one disobedient to parents? n Is this one disobedient to authority?

61. Other Considerations n Is this one disobedient to parents? n Is this one disobedient to authority? n Is this one a showoff, always seeking attention and a “know-it-all”?

62. Other Considerations n Is this one disobedient to parents? n Is this one disobedient to authority? n Is this one a showoff, always seeking attention and a “know-it-all”? n Is this one given to lying?

63. How to Find a Mate. n Be the kind of person that you want to marry. (Ruth 3:11)

64. How to Find a Mate. n Ruth 3:11 (NKJV) - And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you request, for all the people of my town know that you are a virtuous woman.

65. How to Find a Mate. n Be the kind of person that you want to marry. (Ruth 3:11) –Your reputation will limit the number of those who will ask you out. This is good!

66. How to Find a Mate. n Be the kind of person that you want to marry. (Ruth 3:11) –Your reputation will limit the number of those who will ask you out. This is good! –Far too many enter the dating relationship as a parent. They think they will “mother” this person to the point he becomes of good character. This is a mistake!

67. How to Find a Mate. n Go to places where good companions can be found.

68. How to Find a Mate. n Go to places where good companions can be found. –Parents! There is much you can do here. Do you open your homes to Christian young people?

69. How to Find a Mate. n Go to places where good companions can be found. –Parents! There is much you can do here. Do you open your homes to Christian young people? –I have know of Christians who went to bars to find a date!

70. How to Find a Mate. n Pray to God. (Matt 6:33)

71. How to Find a Mate. n Matthew 6:33 (NKJV) - But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

72. How to Find a Mate. n Pray to God. (Matt 6:33) –We may have to wait.

73. How to Find a Mate. n Pray to God. (Matt 6:33) –We may have to wait. –If we never marry, then so be it. I want to go to heaven.

74. How to Find a Mate. n Pray to God. (Matt 6:33) –We may have to wait. –If we never marry, then so be it. I want to go to heaven. –God knows our needs and will respond to our faith in Him.