1. . Topics Discussed:1) The Importance Of Encouragement And Praise In The Development Of A Child. 2) The Importance Of Play In A Child’s Development. B) Why Parents Should Play With Their Child. Workshop Questionaire sheet. Generated by Madam Mercy Ane Akaragwe Scenario1: My son is the calm type. Loves to play at home by himself. Is not interested in playing outside. His uniform is always clean. He doesn’t really have any particular friend. He is intelligent and can be very creative about play ideas. He is very good at the things he can do but is unwilling or reluctant to try new things. He never destroys anything or makes the house untidy for any reason. He doesn’t like to be disturbed and he doesn't like to play with me so I leave him alone. He is easy to handle because while he is busy doing his own things, I have enough time for my self and can do my own things. Scenario 2: My son likes to play at home or outside. So it is easy for me to play with him. He is intelligent and very creative about play ideas. He has many friends but gets into trouble* most of the time he goes out to play.However, he manages to maintain the same friends for a long time. He is intelligent. He never gives up on anything (a game, helping or academics) without trying several times. Most of the time he tries to fix things or help do something. Scenario 3: My son is a born leader. He likes playing outside and at home. But he plays only with people he can control or only games he is sure to win. He is intelligent and creative. However, he gets very angry when he losses a game. He is not an easy person to play with. He has lots of friends but he keeps changing friends every time. He gets very angry when he tries to fix something and is unsuccessful. He abandons any activity or game he finds challenging. 1) Which son do you admire the most? _____________________Why _____________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ 2) What do you think can be the reasons why son 3 keeps changing friends? _____________________________________________________________________________ 3) Would you describe son 1 as being scared? How do you think he will be able to respond to life's challenges in the future? ___________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ 4) Do you think expressing an interest in his play(without criticising or correcting) will make him allow you to join him in playing?___________________________________________________ 5) Why do you think son 2 gets into trouble most of the time? ___________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ 6) Would you prefer a child that gets into trouble sometimes or a child that never gets into trouble? Explain: _________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ 7 ) Which more appropriately describes playing with your child. 1) Bring yourself down to your child's level by joking with your child and teasing him in an activity. 2) Getting involved in your child’s activity on an equal basis in a non competitive and non controlling manner. Discuss your opinion to each question with your group and write your chosen response in the spaces provided. *Trouble implies, getting your uniform dirty, getting into a fight, loosing and item. Or damaging an item by accident. It excludes insulting, stealing or causing intentional harm or destruction.

2. Circle: Which child stands a better chance at becoming a successful adult? 1)The child who attempts things and though he gets into trouble keeps trying harder even with no success but hoping he will succeed someday. A child who goes out and face challenging situations with friends daily though he may get into trouble. 2)A child who is very good at the things he can do, is afraid to try new things because he thinks it is dangerous, or he may not succeed or worst still he may get into trouble; 3)A child who loves to be in control, is very good at the things he can do, is ready to try new things but quickly abandons them because he finds it difficult or because he is not very good at it Section 2 1 st scenario: You are eating, your child brings you drinking water without you asking. In the process, she spills water on a just dry cleaned floor and messes the house. What will be your immediate reaction? _____________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ Do you see anything in her action that warrants praise? ______ Explain: ___________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ What do you think should be your best response in such a situation: _______________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ How do you think this response will help in building your child: ____________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ 2 nd scenario: Your child has never discussed activities in school with you before. He rushes in one afternoon and proudly announces with excitement that “Dad, we did racing today and I came 5 th. What will be your immediate response? _____________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ Do you see anything in her action that warrants praise? ______ Explain: ___________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ What do you think should be your best response in such a situation? _____________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ How do you think this response will help in building your child? ___________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ What is the difference between “reward” and “praise”? __________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ Imagine for a moment that your response was… “ that is very good. Have you ever done racing before”? Child’s response: “Yes and I have always come 10 th. This is the first day I am 5 th”. Check this with your first response and compare which best helps your child’s development.. 2 nd scenario: A boy is trying to do “tapping” the ball outside. He is barely able to tap up to 5 times. Dad comes in and asked to play with him. Dad takes the ball and taps it to a hundred. He jokingly mocks his son. “Do you see what I can do? You cannot even do 10. The he says”. You try now. 1) Place yourself I the boy’s position. How will you feel? _________________________________ 2) Do you think he will love to play with Dad again? __________. Explain: ____________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ Discuss the things that went wrong in this father and son play.