1. Part 2 Why Marriage Fails so Often

2. What is failure in marriage ?  Divorce  Does not have to end in divorce to be a failure.  If it does not prepare us for heaven !

3. “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Heb. 13:4 God designed Us for marriage God gave laws For marriage Why Marriage Fails so Often

4. 1. The persons involved fail Inadequate persons are not guided by the BIBLE. Both must be adequate partners It takes TWO adequate partners to have a successful marriage.

5. 2. Fail to understand the commitment Marriage ceremony Till death Sickness and in health Prosperity & Adversity

6. 3. Because of Immaturity Dependence Independence Inter-dependence =Childhood =Adolescence =Maturity Selfishness

7. 4. Unfair or Harsh Criticism One or both fall into the habit of criticizing Ends in self-righteousness Not the way of Christ Concentrate on the good

8. 5. Too Sensitive Sensitive in wrong or right way No one is perfect – Phil.3:12-13 Criticism can help us do better Refuse to criticize when you are criticized

9. 6. Torn asunder by inner Conflicts House divided against itself Civil war within – conflicts Makes for inadequate partners Beatitudes in Matthew 5

10. 7. Lack of trust in one another Jealousy = destructive Must be worthy of trust Song of Solomon 8:6 “jealousy is cruel as the grave” 1 Cor.13:7 “believeth all things”

11. 8. Failure in physical intimacy Sex is the added language given by God to married couples Unmarried attempt to speak this language – ends in sorrow Heb. 13:4 “honorable”

12. 9. Failure in kindness, courtesy and thoughtfulness 1 Cor. 13 = Love Col. 3:19 “Be not bitter” When you love your companion you will not be unkind because “LOVE IS KIND”

13. 10. Do not learn how to Resolve conflict Will be differences Rom. 12:10 Sometimes wife wants to boss Eph. 5:25 “husband is head”

14. 11. Financial Problems  Not as much money  Overspend their income  Tempers flare  A battle results

15. 12. The husband and wife are Not united in Christ Need each other spiritually Discuss before marriage 1 Pet. 3:1-2 “may be won”

16. Let love come into your lives and let it grow and grow. Love is the foundation of marriage. Love One Another.

18. Part 2 Why Marriage Fails so Often

19. Sermon by Arthur Pigman Evans Church of Christ 515 Gibbs Road Evans, Ga. 30809 706-855-1249evanscoc@bellsouth.netwww.evansgachurchofchrist.org Sunday Evening Feb. 8, 2009