1. Developing Healthful Family Relationships
Unit 3, Lesson 13
National Health Standards 1.2, 1.8, 2.1, 5.7

2. Family Relationships Family Extended Family members Healthful family
Basic unit of society
Group of people to which we belong
Extended Family members
All members of a family in addition to immediate family members
Healthful family
Family that practices skills to promote loving, responsible relationships

3. Roles of parents and guardians
Teach children:
Self-respecting behavior
Healthful attitudes
Effective communication
Clear sense of value
Responsible decision making

4. Conflict resolution
Coping skills
Delayed gratification
Expressing affection and integrating love and sexuality
Give and receive kindness

5. Work ethic
Respect for authority

6. Teach by: Setting example Having discussions
Expecting behaviors and skills to be practiced
Enforcing consequences

7. Roles of grandparents
Reinforcing behaviors and skills taught by parents
Help raise grandchildren

8. Roles of other family members
Practice behaviors and skills taught by parents
Help each other interact in loving and responsible ways

9. Family continuum 2 extremes of family life Ideal and dysfunction
Ideal Family
Dysfunctional Family 1
1Meeks, Linda. Heit, Philip. Page, Randy. Health and Wellness. McGraw-Hill Glencoe p. 135.

10. Dysfunctional Family Ideal Family
Does not promote loving, responsible relationships
Ideal Family
Does promote loving, responsible relationships

11. Healthful Family Relationships
Learn self-respecting behavior
Treat self in a healthy, responsible way
Learn to value needs of others
Know difference between self-respect and self- centered ( fulfill personal needs with little regard for others)

12. Learn healthful attitudes toward sexuality
Positive feelings and attitudes about body, sex role, and relationships
Learn healthful sex roles
Behavior, attitude, value, and beliefs appropriate for males and females on the basis of biological sex

13. Learn effective communication skills
Positive ways to share feelings, thoughts, and information with others
Learn a clear sense of value
Healthful standard or belief

14. Learn to make responsible decisions Learn to resolve conflicts
Imitate, observe, evaluate, set guidelines
Learn to resolve conflicts
Listen and work to find a common solution
Learn effective coping skills
Skills to deal with life’s crises

15. Learn to delay gratification
Voluntarily delaying the reward for the completion of a task or responsibility
Learn to express affection
Appropriate ways to express affection for loved ones

16. Learn to respect authority
Learning a work ethic
Attitude, discipline, motivation, and commitment towards tasks to be completed
Learn to respect authority
Respect laws and rules of authority figures

17. Causes of Dysfunctional Families
Chemical dependence
Life depends on getting chemical over needs of other family members
Increases risk of violence, neglect, abuse
May be an inherited dependency
Co-dependent – lives without needed items to be sure addict gets what they “need”

18. Other addictions Perfectionism
Any compelling desire to use or engage in a behavior despite the consequences
Food, gambling, shopping, etc.
Perfectionism
Compelling need to be flawless

19. Violence in the family
Use of physical force to injure, damage, or destroy oneself, others, or property
In a relationship when one member uses violence to control the other member, it is domestic violence

20. Abuse in the family Child abuse Spouse abuse
Harmful maltreatment of another person
Child abuse
Harmful maltreatment of a minor
Spouse abuse
Harmful maltreatment of a husband or wife

21. Parent abuse Elder abuse Harmful treatment of a parent
Harmful treatment of an aged family member

22. 4 kinds of abuse Physical Emotional Neglect Physical injury to victim
Belittling, bad mouthing, withholding affection
Neglect
Failure to provide proper care and guidance

23. Sexual abuse
Forced sexual contact – by physical force, manipulation, or threat of harm

24. Abandonment in a family
Give up or refuse responsibility for those whom they are legally bound to provide care
Mental disorders in a family
Behavioral or psychological syndrome or pattern of a family member that takes special attention of all family members

25. Co-dependent Relationships
Have trouble with intimacy
Deep and meaningful kind of sharing between people
Obsessing about the needs of others and avoiding others
Enmeshment
Become so focused on the needs of another that own needs go unmet

26. Lack of interdependency
Depend on each other, yet have own identity

27. Improve Relationship Intervention Therapy
Seek professional help outside the family
Therapy
Individual or group
Practice relating to one another in a safe environment

28. Steps to Resolve Family Conflicts Responsibly
Remain calm
Set a positive tone
Define the conflict and take responsibility of own actions
Listen to needs and feelings of others

29. List and evaluate possible solutions
Agree on a solution
Communicate

30. Recovery programs
Group that support members as they change behaviors
AA – Alcoholics Anonymous – group for recovering addicts
Al-Anon – group for families who have an addict member
Alateen – group for teens who have addicted family members or friends