1. Tool Kit Tearing Off Labels Showing Others Who I Can Be

2. Tool KitPROMPT:PREPARED:PARTICIPATE:RESPECT: CLASS COMMITMENTS I will arrive early and attend all classes. I will bring my Game Plan to every class and will have all my journaling completed. I will share, report and be engaged in all activities. I will respect myself and others at all times during class.

3. Tool Kit REVIEW FROM LAST CLASS Let’s see who will review & teach us the metaphor from last class …

4. Tool Kit SHARE & REPORT MOTIVATION QUESTION ACTION STEP WEAK THINK / STRONG THINK GAME PLAN JOURNAL Let’s each take a turn standing up to share & report for 1 - 2 minutes on ONE of these areas from last class.

5. Tool Kit WHERE WE’RE HEADED… I WILL prove “The Real Me” and overcome my negative labels from the past!

6. Tool Kit Reality Ride Seeing Over the Wall Get Plugged In Climbing Out of the Pot Lift the Weight Defense Mechanisms Desire- Time-Effort Jumping Over Hurdles Tearing Off Labels Motivation Formula “Creating greater opportunity, freedom, and personal strength through resiliency education.”

7. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels

8. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels 1 1 What is a label?

9. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels 1 1 What is a label? How many of these can you identify with? Circle all that apply…

10. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? 2 2

11. Tool Kit Painting Over Mold balloon is when I present myself like I am really trying to deal with problems or make changes when I know deep down inside that I’m really just talking, faking it, and don’t mean what I’m saying. PAINTING OVER MOLD REMODEL THE WHOLE THING If I am trying to sell a house and the outside of the house looks great because I remodeled the exterior but the inside is all trashed out and ragged, I can forget about getting a buyer! I will have wasted my time fixing up the outside and wasted the buyer’s time by getting them inside! Painting Over Mold is a waste of everybody’s time!

12. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? 2 2

13. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3

14. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? 1. STOP 2. REMEMBER 3. DECIDE 4. FLEX Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3

15. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? 1. STOP living up to my negative labels and prove them wrong! 2. REMEMBER 3. DECIDE 4. FLEX Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3 Why is it EASY to prove my negative labels true? What have I done in the past to prove my negative labels true? Why is it HARD to express and stay focused on “The Real Me.”

16. Tool Kit FAKE HERO BALANCE I must find the proper balance between my strengths, qualities, and good things about myself – and the things I still need to grow in, work on, and improve. The good does not take away the bad, and the bad does not take away the good. They must be balanced. I lift the Fake Hero balloon when I focus only on the good things about myself and/or good things I’ve done. I want others to see me only in a positive light so that I can avoid dealing with my mistakes or problems.

17. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? 1. STOP living up to my negative labels and prove them wrong! 2. REMEMBER 3. DECIDE 4. FLEX Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3 Why is it EASY to prove my negative labels true? What have I done in the past to prove my negative labels true? Why is it HARD to express and stay focused on “The Real Me.”

18. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels What have my negative labels paid me in the past? What will “The Real Me” pay me in the future? 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? Why is it EASY to prove my negative labels true? What have I done in the past to prove my negative labels true? Why is it HARD to express and stay focused on “The Real Me.” 1. STOP living up to my negative labels and prove them wrong! 2. REMEMBER the pay offs. 3. DECIDE 4. FLEX Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3

19. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels What have my negative labels paid me in the past? What will “The Real Me” pay me in the future? 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? Why is it EASY to prove my negative labels true? What have I done in the past to prove my negative labels true? Why is it HARD to express and stay focused on “The Real Me.” 1. STOP living up to my negative labels and prove them wrong! 2. REMEMBER the pay offs. 3. DECIDE that my negative labels are from the past! Today I choose to keep them on or start tearing them off! 4. FLEX What would be different if I woke up tomorrow and my negative labels were suddenly gone? Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3

20. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels What have my negative labels paid me in the past? What will “The Real Me” pay me in the future? 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? Why is it EASY to prove my negative labels true? What have I done in the past to prove my negative labels true? Why is it HARD to express and stay focused on “The Real Me.” 1. STOP living up to my negative labels and prove them wrong! 2. REMEMBER the pay offs. 3. DECIDE that my negative labels are from the past! Today I choose to keep them on or start tearing them off! 4. FLEX “The Real Me” and make it stand out so much that the negative label must be torn off. What new observable behaviors will I do to show I am better than my negative labels? How can I prove “The Real Me” is true? What would be different if I woke up tomorrow and my negative labels were suddenly gone? Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3

21. Tool Kit I lift the blaming balloon when I believe that someone or something else is responsible for my attitudes, actions, or language. When I try to justify or explain my position without taking any personal. BLAMING LOOK INTO MY “I” A strong person with Character & Heart never hands over control to others by using “You” statements (“You made me angry when you did that.”) Instead, they maintain their personal strength and take responsibility for their own life and consistently make “I” statements. (“I became angry when you did that.”)

22. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels What have my negative labels paid me in the past? What will “The Real Me” pay me in the future? 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? Why is it EASY to prove my negative labels true? What have I done in the past to prove my negative labels true? Why is it HARD to express and stay focused on “The Real Me.” 1. STOP living up to my negative labels and prove them wrong! 2. REMEMBER the pay offs. 3. DECIDE that my negative labels are from the past! Today I choose to keep them on or start tearing them off! 4. FLEX “The Real Me” and make it stand out so much that the negative label must be torn off. What new observable behaviors will I do to show I am better than my negative labels? How can I prove “The Real Me” is true? What would be different if I woke up tomorrow and my negative labels were suddenly gone? Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3

23. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels What have my negative labels paid me in the past? What will “The Real Me” pay me in the future? 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? Why is it EASY to prove my negative labels true? What have I done in the past to prove my negative labels true? Why is it HARD to express and stay focused on “The Real Me.” 1. STOP living up to my negative labels and prove them wrong! 2. REMEMBER the pay offs. 3. DECIDE that my negative labels are from the past! Today I choose to keep them on or start tearing them off! 4. FLEX “The Real Me” and make it stand out so much that the negative label must be torn off. What new observable behaviors will I do to show I am better than my negative labels? How can I prove “The Real Me” is true? Every night ask: What did I do today to tear off my negative labels? How can I do more of this tomorrow? What would be different if I woke up tomorrow and my negative labels were suddenly gone? Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3

24. Tool KitREVIEW Let’s see who will review for us the basic concepts of Tearing Off Labels

25. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels What is a label? 1. STOP 2. REMEMBER 3. DECIDE 4. FLEX

26. Tool Kit MOTIVATION QUESTION ACTION STEP WEAK / STRONG THINK Painting Over Mold Remodel The Whole Thing How is my “Real Me” connected to my Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward? I will show more of “The Real Me” tomorrow by doing … Fake Hero Balance Blaming Look Into My “I” / / / / LOOKING AHEAD:

27. Tool Kit Tearing Off Labels Showing Others Who I Can Be

28. Tool Kit Base Image What Is A Label? Easy To Give Up? The Real Me 4 Steps 1)StopStop 2)RememberRemember 3)DecideDecide 4)FlexFlex Every Night 1 1 2 2 3 3 4 4 Cover w/ Music Class Commitments Review Last Class Share & Report Where We’re Headed Staircase This Class Review Looking Ahead Single Slide Animated Tearing Off Labels ACTIVITIES Stereotype Follow The Leader One of A Kind Gender Gap MUSIC Labels Original Labels New Labels - AnimotoLabels - Animoto VIDEOS Labels Are For Jars Paul Potts Susan Boyle Dove Real Beauty WEAK/STRONG THINK Painting Mold / Remodel Fake Hero / Balance Blaming / Look Into My “I”

29. Tool Kit Personal strength & energy is dying Path of least resistance Hurting self or others Less opportunity & freedom “The Flood Zone” Damage WhyTry? Opportunity, Freedom, Personal Strength What might my life look like when I get here? Get Plugged In 8 8 Transforming Challenges into Personal Strength Challenges 1 1 3 3 Who Are My Lifelines? Who values me because of who I am, not just my successes or failures? Who is helping me become an expert on myself? Who helps me see positive attributes in myself and others? Positive Self Talk 4 4 What will my self talk be that will not hurt myself or others? What do I have & don’t have personal control over? Character & Heart 5 5 Who respects and cares for me that I do not want to disappoint by giving up? How will I really feel about myself if I never get any farther than this? 7 7 Personal Passion & Purpose Turned Outward Once I am here, who else can I help get here? 6 6 Where have I gotten lost? Why did I continue? Choice Positive Negative 2 2 Energy

30. Tool Kit Lift the Weight What Makes Me Strong? “Easy” No Resistance “Hard” Resistance 2 2 Laws, Rules, Expectations: Home? Peers? Work/School? Legal? Why do I need resistance to become stronger? 1 1 What are three things that I spend most of my time thinking about and doing?...... 4 4 Why is this my most important “muscle” and source of personal strength? 6 6 C haracter C hoice C hallenge What has this produced in my life? Where have I lifted the balloon in my life? 3 3 ExcusesExcuses BlameBlame AvoidanceAvoidance QuittingQuitting ApathyApathy Do any of these things create greater opportunity, freedom, and personal strength? If ”yes,” keep lifting. What are three things that I spend most of my time thinking about and doing?...... 4 4 What is at least one new daily workout I can start in order to create more character, heart, and personal strength? 5 5 If ”no,” create a new workout.

31. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels What have my negative labels paid me in the past? What will “The Real Me” pay me in the future? 1 1 What is a label? Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? Why is it EASY to prove my negative labels true? What have I done in the past to prove my negative labels true? Why is it HARD to express and stay focused on “The Real Me.” 1. STOP living up to my negative labels and prove them wrong! 2. REMEMBER the pay offs. 3. DECIDE that my negative labels are from the past! Today I choose to keep them on or start tearing them off! 4. FLEX “The Real Me” and make it stand out so much that the negative label must be torn off. What new observable behaviors will I do to show I am better than my negative labels? How can I prove “The Real Me” is true? Every night ask: What did I do today to tear off my negative labels? How can I do more of this tomorrow? What would be different if I woke up tomorrow and my negative labels were suddenly gone? Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3

32. Tool Kit Jumping Hurdles Learning How Not To Stumble GET 3. GET Help Who can I plug into when I need help? BELIEVE 5. BELIEVE In Change What would it take for this number to go up? 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 “ I believe I won’t change” “I don’t know” “I believe I will change” On a scale from one to ten, how much do I believe I will change? What have I already jumped over? 2 2 What can I jump over? 4 4 Why should I try to jump my hurdles? 3 3 IDENTIFY 1. IDENTIFY The Pain “No Pain – No Gain” Why am I tired of falling and tripping over my hurdles? What pain has my falling and tripping caused myself and others? 6 6 What have I not tried in the past that might work now? What have I tried before that I can put more effort into now? CREATE 2. CREATE Options 5 5 What are my strengths? TAKE 4. TAKE Action What specific observable behaviors do I need to STOP and START to jump my hurdle? My Problem: I Only Lose If I Give Up & Quit! 1 1 What signs or clues are there that this is a real problem of mine? JUMP 6. JUMP Back Up What will I and others LOSE if I don’t learn how to jump over this hurdle? What will I and others GAIN if I truly learn how to jump over this hurdle? What will my self talk be as I continue to run the race?

33. Tool Kit There Are No Shortcuts To true success

34. Tool Kit Defense Mechanisms Creating A Strong Positive Defense With My Thoughts, Feelings, and Choices Defense How do I know when I have chosen a Strong positive defense mechanism ? Thought Thought & Feeling 3 3 5 5 What is a defense mechanism? 1 1 Disrespected Confronted Yelled at Lied to Threatened Pressured Wrong Blamed Pushed/Hit Frustrated Put Down Cheated Caught in the act Told what to do Angry Confused Situation 2 2 How do I respond (act) when I’m… “Hard” “Easy” Four Steps To Create A Strong Positive Defense 6 6 Weak Strong Strong How does this produce more personal strength? 1. NOTICE the warning signs of the attack. Anger Frustration Nervous Fear Adrenaline Pulse racing 3. CONTROL my response: “I will not let anyone else control how I respond!” How do I know when someone else is trying to control how I respond to a situation? 4. CHOOSE a positive defense mechanism. What will I probably gain when I choose a Strong ”Hard” defense mechanism? 2. IDENTIFY my thoughts & feelings. Once identified: A) Check it… B) Reframe it… C) Calm it. - What are two areas in my life where I know I will be attacked? - How can I practice identifying my thoughts & feelings before the attack hits full on? Choice 4 4 Who controls the choice I make? How do I protect my feelings? “When I am helping, not hurting, myself and others”

35. Tool Kit Why is it difficult for the crabs to climb out of the pot? WARNING: If I try to get out, I will be attacked! Why does this happen? 1 1 What “Pot” am I in? 2 2 What have I told myself and others about the “Pot” that has kept us in it? 3 3 What “tools” are available to me to help me climb out? 9 9 What will my future be like if I don’t get out? 7 7 When I get out, what will I need to stay focused on and do in order to STAY out? 10 Who wants to see me STAY IN the “Pot” 4 4 What are their reasons for wanting me to stay in? What have been my reasons for staying in the “Pot”? 6 6 What are my reasons for putting forth the time and effort needed for me to be able to climb out? 8 8 Who wants to see me GET OUT of the “Pot” 5 5 What are their reasons for wanting me to get out? How have these choices made me feel? Who do I know who stayed in the “Pot” too long and never made it out? If they were here right now, what would they probably say to me about their “Pot”? Climbing Out of the Pot Identifying Strong Family Members and Friends

36. Tool Kit 1 1 Parent / Family / Significant Other / Spouse 2 2 Positive Friend 3 3 Counselor / Teacher / Officer / Other Professional 4 4 Positive Mentor / Sponsor 5 5 My Passion and Purpose Turned Outward These 5 connections will help turn on the “light” to see my future more clearly How much time am I communicating with my parent(s), family, significant other or spouse? (I need to spend at least 30 minutes a day communicating with them – talk face-to-face, phone, letter, etc.) What is one conflict, argument, or power struggle that I can give up today that won’t hurt me and will help lower my parent(s), family, significant other or spouse’s anxiety about me? I know I have a real friend when I am with them and they do things that help, not hurt, themselves and me. What do I need to work on to become more of a positive friend to others? Who knows and believes in ”The Real Me” because I have been honest with them and have shared what I really want to become and accomplish? What am I willing to do in order to get to know them better and allow them to get to know me better? Who do I know, or could get to know, who has overcome some of the same challenges that I have and accomplished goals and dreams similar to mine? Who am I willing to take a risk with and ask them if they are willing to help me? What are three qualities about them that I would like to develop more in myself? Who do I really want to share my passion and purpose with? What do I need to do to learn more and become even stronger in my passion and purpose? Get Plugged In Positive Connections That Make Me Stronger

37. Tool KitH W P L H W P L 1 1 Goal: 2 2 HW P L 5 5 Decisions that get me into trouble... 4 4 My challenges... Home: Peers: Work/School: Legal: = Consequences of my decisions that harm myself and others... 6 6 “Reality” ------ Will I ever obtain LASTING opportunity, freedom, and personal strength on this track with these consequences? 7 7 What problems do I keep having over and over? -Frustrated -Confused -Angry -Scared -I keep getting the same results - Work/School - Peers - Home - Legal 3 3 8 8 STOP! (“Have I had enough?”) or START ride over! 9 9 Who will be my passengers on this track? How will I prepare for this crossroad? 10 11 What will my future be like when I ride here? At home: With my peers: At work/school: Legally: “Reality” What choices will give me... My support system (“Get Plugged In”) - Opportunity - Freedom - Personal Strength Strength My Choices Today Determine My Tomorrow “Hit the wall”

38. Tool Kit Seeing Over The Wall Living With A New View and More Strength What is my current view giving me? Big View Plugging In Lift Weight Maze Hurdles Defense Mech Reality Ride Labels Climbing Out Limited View Failure Drugs Anger Fighting Family Problems Why Try? Who Cares I Can’t Incarceration Opportunity Freedom Personal Strength How has climbing the WhyTry steps created more options for me? 3 3 Only from here will I achieve my goals and dreams. REMEMBER: I know I am on top of the wall when I am helping, not hurting, myself and others! If I am standing here, why is opportunity, freedom, and personal strength hard to see? 1 1 I WILL transform my challenges into personal strength! 2 2 I WILL become stronger by following laws, Rules & expectations! I WILL prove “The Real Me” and overcome my negative labels! I WILL jump over my hurdles and win the race with positive solutions! I WILL endure life’s difficult and confusing hardships until I succeed! I WILL create a strong positive defense by focusing on what I control: my thoughts, feelings, and choices! I WILL identify and hold onto positive family members and friends! I WILL generate light for myself and others by staying plugged into positive connections! I WILL obtain opportunity, freedom, and personal strength on the harder track! Why does this view make me stronger? I believe my motivation to change will go up with each step that I climb! Why is this so? Why do I often fail to see a way out of this position in my life? If I can’t see over the wall, I WILL ask myself, “What step am I tripping on?” I WILL then study and reapply this step in my life.

39. Tool Kit Showing Others Who I Can Be Tearing Off Labels 1 1 What is a label? Why is it EASY to prove my negative labels true? What have I done in the past to prove my negative labels true? Why is it HARD to express and stay focused on “The Real Me.” 1. STOP living up to my negative labels and prove them wrong! What have my negative labels paid me in the past? What will “The Real Me” pay me in the future? 2. REMEMBER the pay offs. 4. FLEX “The Real Me” and make it stand out so much that the negative label must be torn off. What new observable behaviors will I do to show I am better than my negative labels? How can I prove “The Real Me” is true? Every night ask: What did I do today to tear off my negative labels? How can I do more of this tomorrow? 3. DECIDE that my negative labels are from the past! Today I choose to keep them on or start tearing them off! What would be different if I woke up tomorrow and my negative labels were suddenly gone? Four steps to tearing off my labels: 4 4 Why is it easy to give up when I have these labels? Do I ever use these as an excuse? 2 2 Permission to brag: What do I like about myself? What do others like about me? My accomplishments? My strengths, goals and dreams? If I were to give myself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 3

40. Tool Kit (Labels Are For Jars, Not For People – YouTube) With a paid WhyTry online curriculum license you have full access to a list of recommended YouTube videos for all of the WhyTry metaphors and classes. 1.Access recommended video resources list by logging into your account at: http://corrections.whytry.org/index.php/log-in then go to “Toolkit” and “Video Resources” 2.Download onto your computer the recommended video for this slide from YouTube, or a video of your own liking. 3.Delete this text box and insert the video from your computer onto this slide.

41. Tool Kit (Paul Potts Audition, Brittan's Got Talent – YouTube) With a paid WhyTry online curriculum license you have full access to a list of recommended YouTube videos for all of the WhyTry metaphors and classes. 1.Access recommended video resources list by logging into your account at: http://corrections.whytry.org/index.php/log-in then go to “Toolkit” and “Video Resources” 2.Download onto your computer the recommended video for this slide from YouTube, or a video of your own liking. 3.Delete this text box and insert the video from your computer onto this slide.

42. Tool Kit (Susan Boyle Audition, Brittan's Got Talent – YouTube) With a paid WhyTry online curriculum license you have full access to a list of recommended YouTube videos for all of the WhyTry metaphors and classes. 1.Access recommended video resources list by logging into your account at: http://corrections.whytry.org/index.php/log-in then go to “Toolkit” and “Video Resources” 2.Download onto your computer the recommended video for this slide from YouTube, or a video of your own liking. 3.Delete this text box and insert the video from your computer onto this slide.

43. Tool KitMen …? (Real Beauty Dove Soap Commercial – YouTube) With a paid WhyTry online curriculum license you have full access to a list of recommended YouTube videos for all of the WhyTry metaphors and classes. 1.Access recommended video resources list by logging into your account at: http://corrections.whytry.org/index.php/log-in then go to “Toolkit” and “Video Resources” 2.Download onto your computer the recommended video for this slide from YouTube, or a video of your own liking. 3.Delete this text box and insert the video from your computer onto this slide.

44. Tool Kit (Male Parody of Real Beauty Dove Soap Commercial – YouTube) With a paid WhyTry online curriculum license you have full access to a list of recommended YouTube videos for all of the WhyTry metaphors and classes. 1.Access recommended video resources list by logging into your account at: http://corrections.whytry.org/index.php/log-in then go to “Toolkit” and “Video Resources” 2.Download onto your computer the recommended video for this slide from YouTube, or a video of your own liking. 3.Delete this text box and insert the video from your computer onto this slide.

45. Tool Kit Insert “TOL_Labels(2)” video. This video has been provided in your downloaded folder.

46. Tool Kit What do you think the author is getting at when he says, “There is so much time to waste on the appealing things that have a bitter aftertaste.”LABELS

47. Tool Kit What do you think is so important about the line, “If you could, would you tear it all away like I can do?” where the author wanted to repeat it four times in a row?LABELS

48. Tool Kit Insert “TOL_Labels(1)” video. This video has been provided in your downloaded folder.

49. Tool Kit This song starts out with a bold claim: What are your thoughts regarding these lyrics? “A label can be good or bad it just depends if it comes from society or a real friend; And if you don’t like ‘em you can take ‘em off; And if they’ve been on too long you can break them off.” LABELS (2)

50. Tool Kit Verse two deals with a person who experienced a lot of success on the surface, but inside he was struggling and considering suicide. What do you think this person meant when he said, “Yeah I bet, but I haven’t even been me yet.” LABELS (2)

51. Tool Kit Insert “TOL_LabelsAnimoto” video. This video has been provided in your downloaded folder.

52. Tool Kit This song starts out with a bold claim: What are your thoughts regarding these lyrics? “A label can be good or bad it just depends if it comes from society or a real friend; And if you don’t like ‘em you can take ‘em off; And if they’ve been on too long you can break them off.” LABELS - Animoto

53. Tool Kit Verse two deals with a person who experienced a lot of success on the surface, but inside he was struggling and considering suicide. What do you think this person meant when he said, “Yeah I bet, but I haven’t even been me yet.” LABELS - Animoto

54. Tool Kit Follow The Leader Step By Step Instructions Click Here

55. Tool Kit 1.Everybody stand up, spread out, and give yourself plenty of arm room... 2.Everyone follow my lead, watch me, and do as I say and do. Follow The Leader 3.Now everyone follow my lead, watch me, and do only as I say.

56. Tool Kit Why was it harder to keep up with the activity the longer it went? Why do we sometimes tell significant others, parents, and authority figures one thing and yet do something else? What is likely to happen if we continue to do this over a long period of time? How have we sometimes earned and deserved some of our negative labels? Follow The Leader

57. Tool Kit Gender Gap Step By Step Instructions Click Here (*) Jenny’s and John’s story sheets (separate) are required for this activity.

58. Tool Kit 1.Let’s divide the room up into research experts on “John” and “Jenny” by counting off with, “John” “Jenny” “John” “Jenny”... 2.Break into research teams of two or three experts (John’s get together with other John’s, Jenny’s get together with other Jenny’s) 3.John’s come up and get your study material. 4.Jenny’s come up and get your study material. 5.Take a few minutes and read your material then discuss and answer the questions as a team on your subject. 6.Let’s talk about what you came up with… Gender Gap

59. Tool Kit Did you have a hard time agreeing with your team on your answers? How do we make assumptions about people based on their gender? Could these assumptions lead to labels? Is that fair? Note: The stories you have read (John & Jenny) were identical except for the names in the story. Gender Gap

60. Tool Kit One of A Kind Step By Step Instructions Click Here

61. Tool Kit 1.Everybody come up, take one piece of paper, return to your seat. 2.Fold your piece of paper in half. 3.In the opposite direction of your first fold, fold the paper in half once again. 4.Tear off two of the four corners on your paper. 5.Tear off a piece from the left side of your paper. 6.Tear off another piece from the right side of your paper. 7.Fold your paper in half one last time. 8.Tear off a piece from the top center of your paper. 9.Unfold your piece of paper. On the count of three, hold it up for everyone else to see. Ready... 1... 2... 3! One of A Kind

62. Tool Kit How was it that all the papers were slightly different when everyone received the exact same instructions? Even though all us share some similarities, how are we all different? What are some of your positive character traits, strengths and abilities that set you apart from others? What are some ways that we let other people see “The Real Me”? One of A Kind

63. Tool Kit Stereotype

64. Tool Kit “A standardized mental picture that is held in common by members of a group and that represents an oversimplified opinion, or prejudiced attitude about another person or other group.” Step By Step Instructions Click Here Stereotype

65. Tool Kit 1.Let’s divide up into groups of three by counting off 1, 2, 3; 1, 2,3... 2.Get with your other team members at the designated table. 3.Decide who on your team will be the scribe/note-taker. 4.As a team, come up with and write down as many stereotypes as you can think of that you have heard other people use or used yourself toward other people. “A standardized mental picture that is held in common by members of a group and that represents an oversimplified opinion, or prejudiced attitude about another person or other group.” Stereotype

66. Tool Kit How many of the stereotypes/labels would you say are negative or disrespectful? Do you feel any of these stereotypes/labels are unfair or inaccurate? Why or why not? Why do you think we label people? What use are they (labels)? How can labeling be harmful to others? Stereotype