1. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Presented By WENDY KAUFMAN Putting Together Your Puzzle

2. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Objectives What makes me happy? How do I feel –Physically –Emotionally –Dream list

3. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Goal Setting Specific Measuable Achievable Realistic Short: 0-1 year Medium: 1-3 years Long: 3 years +

4. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Will Power Will power is active only in 1/6 th of your brain. 5/6 th of your brain power is at the non-conscious level. Thus you are unable to control it. However, scientific research has found that you are able to control all 6 parts of your brain. So, learn to control the non-conscious thinking by putting your brain on autopilot. This will enable you to keep yourself motivated!

5. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Avoid Procrastination A 50% average in making good decisions is a good record. Many people are not good problem solvers, but they are good decision makers. Learn to analyze facts quickly, make a decision, and then learn to live with the results!

6. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Happiness Intent Accountability –Grass is greener… –Do what you like and do it more Tragedies –Moving on and upward –Example: lottery winners one year later- -many say they are less happy

7. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Happiness Never give up Don’t dwell on the past Embrace change Embrace fear –What are you afraid of? –What would help you cope better? Options Creativity - think outside the box Appreciation Mindful Living Giving Ethics/honesty Character - when no one is looking

8. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Health Sleep –8.3 Hours –7 nights a week –REM sleep Eating 5 fruits & veggies 20 minutes after eating Weigh once a week

9. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Finances Goal setting Nickel and dime spending Retirement planning Start now Meat vs. gravy Debt management Family values Inheriting spending habits

10. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Prioritizing Your Life Write your eulogy Re-evaluate your choices Examine other people’s priorities Role-model your priorities –Wear them openly –Shout them from a rooftop

11. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Stress Management 20 minutes every day Fight or flight responses Relax your body… 6-3- 6 exercise Baths/walk Pet/plant therapy Laugh Cry Touch Crossword Puzzles Learn a new language/musical instrument

12. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Relieving Stress 1) Stay ahead of your work. 2) Do the hard tasks first. 3) Do the difficult tasks in phases. 4) Getting enough sleep is a must. 5) Have planned recreation and hobbies. 6) Admit and verbalize the causes of your own irritations. 7) Face up to the fact you really can’t do all the things you scheduled.

13. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Emotional Intelligence Self-awareness Learned optimism Delayed gratification Empathy Social Skills

14. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Communication Start with “I” 3 minute rule Family meetings Needs vs. wants “Men are from Venus…” Self-talk

15. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Assertiveness Ask for what you want –9 times! –Practice makes perfect –Passive vs. aggressive –Personal vs. business

16. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Quotes “Take your life in your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.” »Erica Jong “Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world.” »Helen Keller

17. The Ultimate Leadership Conference ©2005 Quotes (Cont’d) “Motivation is when your dreams put on work clothes.” »Ben Franklin “One worthwhile task carried to a successful conclusion is worth half-a-hundred half-finished tasks.” »Malcolm S. Forbes