18. Contrast Enemies and Friends Enjoy your demise vs. Are devastated by your fall Try to trip you up vs. Try to hold you up Use information against you vs. Keep information in confidence Emphasize and exaggerate your weaknesses vs. Understand your weaknesses and seek to mitigate them Flattery you vs. Speak the truth in love Expose your transgressions vs. Cover your transgressions

21. How do we act and react when a good man or woman is down?  The Opportunity to Demean or Dignify  The Opportunity to Express Malice or Mercy  The Opportunity to Betray or Be Loyal  The Opportunity to Fight Back or Embrace Grace