1. E VER N OTICE H OW Y OUR K IDS A RE S O M UCH B ETTER T HAN E VERYONE E LSE ’ S ?

3. N EED S OME D IRECTION ?

4. E FFECTIVE P ARENTS A RE … IN C HARGE Don’t battle Set boundaries Strength, protection and guidance Remember you are the adult and you are in charge! Whatever you do, the experts say the secret to success is to be firm, fair, and consistent!

6. E FFECTIVE P ARENTS A RE … I NVOLVED At School At Home In the Community “Forget about ‘quality time’. Parents must keep their noses in their children’s business 24 hours a day!” A School Principal

7. E FFECTIVE P ARENTS H AVE … H IGH E XPECTATIONS ‘ I Can ’ is more important than ‘IQ’ Help your child ‘See Her/Himself’ succeeding Expose your child to successful people Talk about successful people Talk about what could happen someday

8. E FFECTIVE P ARENTS … S ET L IMITS E NFORCE L IMITS Is Teaching Not Punishment More About Listening Than Talking Choices With Consequences

9. W HAT K IND OF P ARENT ARE Y OU ????

11. The Bottom Line…….

12. C HILDREN B EHAVE FOR A R EASON Sensory Escape Attention Tangible

13. S TEPS TO P OSITIVE D ISCIPLINE Seek to Understand Stay in Control Be Consistent Energy FLOWS where Attention GOES ! Be Positive

14. S TEP 1: S EEK T O U NDERSTAND Children want to behave! If a misbehavior has worked in the past, it may continue. Once we know the root of the behavior, we can help our child to learn a better way to get what they want.

15. S TEP 2: S TAY I N C ONTROL Don’t belittle your child’s feelings Don’t rescue or take over Don’t allow your child to blame others Don’t allow emotion to control your response

16. S TEP 3: B E C ONSISTENT Be firm & clear Establish routines Follow through on consequences Keep your promises

17. S TEP 4: E NERGY F LOWS W HERE ATTENTION G OES Too much Attention? Attend to what you want to increase Ignore what you can

18. S TEP 5: B E P OSITIVE Immunity Try telling them what they can do instead. Teach replace behavior Praise them for what they do good

19. B E A M ORE E FFECTIVE P ARENT Believe in your child! Help your child feel loved and capable. Keep your promises! Be specific in your praise. Be a model learner. Talk about what could happen someday. DREAM!!