1. LESSON 1 Parental Divorce Results in Tearing the Child’s Heart Apart Presented by THE NATURAL SYSTEMS INSTITUTE Under Construction

2. The Young Child Is Happy When Parents Are Happily Married A. Happily married parents from the child’s point of view. Oh, Happy Days!

3. When Parents are in Conflict, the child becomes anxious, fretful and feels its heart is splitting just like the marriage B. Signs of Serious Conflict “Oh no ! What’s happening?”

4. When Parents Are Divorced and Alienated, the Child Feels Split Into Two Alienated Persons, Lives in Agony, but Maintains Hope That It Can Bring ‘Them’ Back Together Child: “My world is split apart. I am split apart. I am anxious, scared, and depressed. All I want is for them to be back together so I can be back together again and my world can be back together again!! C. Parents: divorced, alienated, and angry. Incapable of focusing on the effects on the child. Fighting each other and each trying to get the child to takes sides against the other. Each is trying to use the child as a spy and pawn to ‘get’ and manipulate the other.

5. Without Reconciling, Parents Can Give the Child Permission to Continue Loving Each Parent Just As Before Divorce. Not Using the Child Against Each Other, Helps to Mend the Child’s Broken Heart. It Can Eventually Be Happy Again... 2. “No. You can love us both. You don’t have to take sides.” 1. “Do I have to love just one and not the other?” 1. “Do I have to love just one and not the other?” 3. Wow! Am I relieved and happy now!! 2. “No. You can love us both. You don’t have to take sides.” D.