1. Mandated Reporter A mandated reporter is required BY LAW to report any SUSPECION of abuse. Mandated reporters include: –Teachers/Coaches –Adults working on school campus –Firemen/Policemen –Doctors/nurses

2. The Following Must Be Reported (By Law) Harm to yourself or others (suicide or homicide) Carrying a weapon (bringing it to school) Drugs (possession of drugs, selling of drugs, and/or coming to class “high”) Abuse

3. 4 Types of Abuse 1.Physical 2.Verbal (mental/emotional) 3.Neglect 4.Sexual

4. Physical Abuse Intended to restrain or injure the partner –Hitting/Punching –Kicking –Shaking –Stabbing –Burning

5. Verbal Abuse Used to break down the other person’s self worth –Name Calling –Put Downs –Teasing –Bullying –Criticism –Shunning or ignoring

6. Neglect Parent / guardian fails to provide the basic needs Food Water Clothing Shelter Medical Care

7. Sexual Abuse Any sexual act without consent (permission) Approximately 1 in 4 girls and one is 6 boys will be sexually abused by the time that they reach 18 Sexual abuse of ANY kind is against the law

8. Sexual Abuse NO means do not proceed beyond that point A date IS NOT a contest to see what you can get Most victims KNOW their offender The OFFENDER IS responsible NOT the victim

9. DATING

10. Stages of a Teen Relationship Romantic gestures Crush turns to love Everyone is on their best behavior Create happy memories Start to kiss and become physically close Brain chemistry “hooks” you to the person especially after sexual contact –Oxytocin – bonding hormone –Dopamine – feel good chemical Enchantment Romantic idealization of person and love

11. Stages of a Teen Relationship Intensity of Feelings Time What happens when one or both partners abuses alcohol/drugs?

12. Stages of a Teen Relationship Lose patience with each other Start to have small disagreements Start to have small disappointments The First Fight Recognize how the other handles conflict Turtle? Bear? Or Hyena? Reality Sets In

13. Stages of a Teen Relationship Fight Fair Constructive Fighting over Destructive Fighting Look for a compromise Give a little Admit vulnerability Recognize Red Flags Break Up or Make Up

14. Destructive Fighting Raises voice Issues ultimatums Sends angry emails and texts Silent treatment Causes a scene Leaves abruptly Laughs/mocks you Threatens suicide Does not show empathy Blames partner for anger and reaction

15. Results of Destructive Fighting Can lead to the destruction of property Can lead to online harassment Can escalate to physical violence Can escalate to police involvement and charges If children are present they learn from the example Create a generational cycle of violence

16. Constructive Fighting Show vulnerability Create solutions Able to admit mistakes Demonstrate empathy Works towards peace Active listening

17. Dating Violence

18. Dating violence is often hidden because teens typically: –Are inexperienced with dating relationships – Are pressured by peers to act violently – Have “romantic” views of love According to the CDC, 1:4 teenagers between the ages of 12 and 21 will experience some form of dating violence

19. Dating Violence Most victims of dating violence are girls Girls tend to tolerate more abuse when –they fear losing a relationship –when they have lost their virginity –when the relationship involves sexual activity Girls between the ages of 16 and 24 have the highest incidence of dating violence

20. Abusers hide their intentions… so negative behaviors may not be evident until later in the relationship

21. Warning Signs Of An Abuser Red Flags (HCHR 13) Controlling behavior (what to wear/how to act/where to go) Jealousy and/or possessiveness = insecurity Isolation (pulls individual away from family and friends) Insulting/humiliating Roller coaster of emotion Stalking Threatens to hurt him/herself

23. Green Flags (HCHR 18,19,20) Love and Friendship Meeting each other’s family Meeting each other’s friends Acceptance of who you are Able to be yourself in front of them Shared interests Shared goals for the future Partner celebrates your accomplishments

24. Safety Plan (HCHR 17,21,22) Go out in groups Go out in public places, have a cell phone Let someone know where you are going and with who When you notice red flags, address them You show other people how you want to be treated Do not accept bad treatment If uncomfortable, leave the scene, set time to meet again If red flags continue LEAVE the RELATIONSHIP