1. Why be a Mentor?

2. 1.DESIRE TO “GIVE SOMETHING BACK” -Help another person avoid some “hard knocks” 2.HELP ANOTHER GROW MORE QUICKLY -Accelerate the learning process 3.WOMEN HELPING WOMEN 4.THE SATISIFACTION OF HAVING SOMETHING OF VALUE TO OFFER ANOTHER 5.OTHERS? Why be a Mentor?

3. DEFINED PARAMETERS OR BOUNDARIES Knowing the limits of the interaction Knowing what topics are “off limits” Respect for the personal integrity of both parties: no forced agreement THE “DISTANCE” BETWEEN MENTOR AND PROTÉGÉ IS RECOGNIZED Mentor does not know the world of the protégé Protégé lives in a different time than the mentor OBJECTIVITY Mentor only hears one side of the story Can not advise, but can help protégé consider options AGREEMENT ON CLEAR OBJECTIVES FOR LEARNING Focused learning…what do I want to learn, what to pay attention to Attributes of a Good Mentoring Relationship

4. PREDICTABILITY AND CONSISTENCY Regular scheduled times for reflection CONFIDENTIALITY HONESTY Protégé seeks to be honest to self Mentor seeks to ask honest questions, even the hard ones Attributes of a Good Mentoring Relationship

5. TRUST A person to whom I can safely express & explore my fears & doubts, dreams & hopes and consider options FEEDBACK METHODS Find a way to discuss the results of actions taken by the protégé over the course of the relationship. Learning from experience. Mentor progressively gains more information about the situation of the protégé, which enables better questions (not advice)

6. MENTORS SHOULD: SHOULD NOT: PROTÉGÉS SHOULD:SHOULD NOT: Maintain objectivity Ask Questions Help the protégé gain self-awareness and self control Seek objectivity Look at all perspectives on issues Accept responsibility for decisions Focus on learning about oneself in the work environment “Get involved. Take sides. Conspire” Advise “Re-live” the mentors experiences or live vicariously Pressure the mentor to endorse my point of view Shift the responsibility to the mentor Seek advise on personal issues

7. Psychological counseling Clinical interventions Counseling about best career fit based on knowledge, skills, abilities and interest Relationship counseling Family counseling Mentoring is NOT…

8. Although one could evolve, neither party should assume the privileges of friendship. Mentoring is NOT A FRIENDSHIP…