1. Dating ch 10

2. Why Date?  Sexual attraction  Fun.  Ego Boost  Getting out of ourselves  “the thing to do”  Companionship  The joy of give and take  Finding a marriage partner  Sexual attraction  Fun.  Ego Boost  Getting out of ourselves  “the thing to do”  Companionship  The joy of give and take  Finding a marriage partner

3. Friendship between genders the guidelines:  See each other as humans first  View each other as equals  Look beyond gender stereotypes  Refrain from sexual relations  See each other as humans first  View each other as equals  Look beyond gender stereotypes  Refrain from sexual relations

4. Pressures and Problems of Dating

5.  The pressure to make it perfect  High expectations  Concerns about being attractive  What to do? Where to go?  Problems with romance  Infatuation: superficial, over powering, fickle, short-lived  Particular hurdles  Jealousy, dependency, exclusivity  The pressure to make it perfect  High expectations  Concerns about being attractive  What to do? Where to go?  Problems with romance  Infatuation: superficial, over powering, fickle, short-lived  Particular hurdles  Jealousy, dependency, exclusivity

6. Dating and Sex: Decisions with Consequences

7. Premarital sex: why & Why not?  Valid reasons?  I may lose him if I don’t have sex with him  We just got carried away  I won’t be a woman until I’ve had sex  Once we start drinking, forget about self-control  It we’re in love isn’t it okay?  Valid reasons?  I may lose him if I don’t have sex with him  We just got carried away  I won’t be a woman until I’ve had sex  Once we start drinking, forget about self-control  It we’re in love isn’t it okay?

8. Why? why not?…  What’s the big deal about putting on the brakes? Sex is what makes life interesting.  Most of the people I know are doing it.  She’ll think I am gay is I don’t  Sex will prove we love each other.  It’s okay because we’ll get married if I get pregnant.  What’s the big deal about putting on the brakes? Sex is what makes life interesting.  Most of the people I know are doing it.  She’ll think I am gay is I don’t  Sex will prove we love each other.  It’s okay because we’ll get married if I get pregnant.

9. Long-term consequences  Pregnancy  STDs  Diminished relationship  Pregnancy  STDs  Diminished relationship

10. Letting Go of a romantic relationship  When boundaries are crossed  When is it going nowhere  Be upfront and honest throughout  Periodically talk about your relationship  When you think you should let go talk to a trusted friend who knows you both  Break the news in person  Let go as friends, but LET GO.  When boundaries are crossed  When is it going nowhere  Be upfront and honest throughout  Periodically talk about your relationship  When you think you should let go talk to a trusted friend who knows you both  Break the news in person  Let go as friends, but LET GO.