1. Failure, Self-Awareness and Finally Learning Lessons

2. “Exceptional people have mastered the art of self-evaluation. Most people have not. They have mastered self- criticism.” Bob Rotella, Champions

3. Facing Struggles Life/Basketball  Self doubt  Fear of failure  Fear of embarrassment  Commitment  Discouragement  Boredom  Loneliness  Anxiety  What is your struggle or weakness?

4. Questions I Have Faced  Who has felt they have already attained the highest level possible?  Who has thought about quitting?  Who has doubted their abilities in-game? Off the court?  Who beats themselves up for not getting the best assignments?  Who doesn’t celebrate successes?  Who has someone to talk to about refereeing?

5. The LIFE CYCLE  Childhood  Teenager  Adult  Mid-life Crisis  Master/Death

6. Waking Up – Self Awareness  Life imitates refereeing  Where were you… 5 days, 5 months, 5 years  Take your life in your hands and what happens?  A terrible thing, no one is to blame  Start seeing the signs and listening to yourself  Watch yourself, see what others see  Where am I spending my precious mental energy

7. How I Overcame Myself?  Calm and in the present moment. Who is really talking to me?  Found my beach  The road is long…. In the end the race is only with yourself  Gratitude and appreciation  Ask for help.  Read and research  Look after my health  Learn lessons, failure is good. Stop making the same mistakes  34 and learning how to walk

8. How I Overcame Myself?  Four Agreements: A practical guide to personal freedom (Don Miguel Ruiz)  Be impeccable with your word  Don’t take anything personally  Don’t make assumptions  Always do your best  Genuine Confidence/ Getting in the Zone  I have done it before  I have no fear in the action  Authentic with the right intention  Six words, Define your officiating/yourself, Set your social standards  Energetic, Attentive, Fearless  Genuine, Understanding, Joy  Visualization  Bamboo Tree – 5 th year : 80ft of growth

9. 10 Commandments of Mastering Coaches  No Preconceived Notions  Determining Reasonable or Unreasonable  Show compassion and listen, choose your words wisely  Start being honest  Stop fearing the process and interaction  Walk slowly and carry a big stick  Start ignoring the box and start worrying about behavior and intent  Be pro-active  Follow through  Find your inner mannequin