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1 3 Secrets to a Successful Marriage FAMS 1150 Dr. Nate Cottle

2 Views of Marriage Competence 1.Something you either have or don’t ▫Marital IQ 2.Skills based, any one can do it if they learn certain skills ▫Communication Skills 3.The Truth: It is more about internal decisiveness (marital permanence) and added skills

3 Stability of the relationship Satisfaction of the relationship

4 To be stable Gottman’s research ▫Love lab Manage negativity ▫especially for men 5 to 1 Ratio 4 Horseman of the Apocalypse or Danger Signs

5 To be stable Danger Signs

6 To be stable Danger Signs

7 To be stable Danger Signs

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11 Calling Time Out Copyright © PREP Educational Products, Inc. 2008. All rights reserved. 303.759.9931.

12 What do you do after? Transformations: Fincham, F. D., Stanley, S. M., & Beach, S. H. (2007). Transformative Processes in Marriage: An Analysis of Emerging Trends. Journal Of Marriage & Family, 69(2), 275- 292. doi:10.1111/j.1741-3737.2007.00362.x

13 What do you do after? Transformations: ▫Forgiveness ▫Commitment ▫Trust ▫Satisfaction with Sacrifice ▫Accommodation ▫Sanctification “Is there an inherent capacity in many relationships for marital self-repair and relationship-generated change, even in the absence of outside intervention?”

14 What is left? To be happy All the other good stuff

15 All the other good stuff... Love ▫Romance ▫Date night Intimacy Communication ▫Openness ▫Understanding Commitment Teamwork Friendship Trust ▫Respect ▫Fidelity Time ▫Together and apart Selflessness Humor Compassion Forgiveness

16 The Recipe for a Healthy Relationship Manage your negativity Do something to repair your relationship when you have harmed it Engage in All the Other Good Stuff


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