1. The LGBTQQIAA-XYZ Alphabet CM Hall, Ed.M.

2. LGBTQQIAA-XYZ…?! L G B T Q I A How many of you are, know, or love someone who has one or more of these identities?

3. Who I Am Graduate of Western Teach at Western (SOC465: LGBTQ Studies and INT470/570, 471/571 DeafBlind Interpreting/Seabeck) Train the Safe Zone trainers Worked for pay and as volunteer on LGBTQ political and equality issues professionally for 20 years in Oregon and nationally. Volunteered in LGBT community for 21 years I love this topic area. This is my passion.

4. Shared Understandings We all are here to share information. Hopefully, this will helpful and useful to you in your Human Sexuality studies (and life!) High value of respect in communication and questions. This is a safe, non-judgmental environment to ask any and all questions. Audience participation is welcomed! Some of you may be versed in this topic area, please contribute as it pertains. No one’s sexual orientation or gender identity or expression will be assumed. There is fluidity around sexual and gender identity and expression. Every person is entitled to love, understanding, empathy, support, dignity, and respect.

5. Q & A Everything you’ve ever wanted to know about LGBTQQIA issues, sexual orientation and gender identity or expression! Please all write a question to turn in something. If you have no questions, turn in something that says “no questions.”

6. Sexuality—and LGBTQQIAA Terms Goals for today: Education on the proper use of these sexual orientation, gender identity and expression- related terms Gain sensitivity in how these terms can be used to inflict distress or empower Invite you to learn more and come to a Safe Zone Ally Training Session

7. Terminology

8. Terms Related to Sexual Orientation

9. Attraction Aesthetic attraction: occurs when someone appreciates the appearance or beauty of another person(s), disconnected from sexual or romantic attraction. Sensual attraction: the desire to interact with others in a tactile, non-sexual way, such as through hugging or cuddling. Intellectual attraction: the desire to engage with another in an intellectual manner, such as engaging in conversation with them, “picking their brain,” and it has more to do with what or how a person thinks instead of the person themselves.

10. Attraction (cont) Emotional attraction: the desire to get to know someone, often as a result of their personality instead of their physicality. This type of attraction is present in most relationships from platonic friendships to romantic and sexual relationships. Romantic attraction: attraction that makes people desire romantic contact or interaction with another person or persons. Sexual attraction: attraction that makes people desire sexual contact or shows sexual interest in another person(s).

11. Sexual Orientation An enduring physical, romantic, emotional, and/or intellectual attraction to another person; may be a same- sex orientation, different-sex orientation, or bisexual orientation.

12. LGBT*Q+ Acronym used to describe people of a non- heterosexual orientation. Implies inclusivity to people of all gender and sexual orientations. LGBTQ… GLBT/LGBT

13. Heterosexual/Straight The adjective used to describe people whose enduring physical, romantic, emotional, and/or spiritual attractions are to people of the “opposite” sex.

14. Gay An adjective used to describe a person whose enduring physical, romantic, emotional and/or relational attractions are to people of the same sex. In addition, term used to describe anyone with a homosexual or bisexual orientation, regardless of whether a man or woman.

15. Lesbian Refers to a woman whose enduring physical, romantic, emotional, and/or relational attractions are to other women.

16. Bisexual A person who is physically, romantically, emotionally and/or relationally attracted to both men and women, though not necessarily simultaneously; they may not be equally attracted to both sexes.

17. Pansexual Defined as someone who is attracted to other people regardless of their gender or sexual orientation. Essentially, they mention “falling in love with a person” or being “gender blind”. “hearts, not parts”

18. Asexual Person who does not experience sexual attraction. Each asexual person experiences things like relationships, attraction, and arousal somewhat differently. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ue6a5psQIXk www.asexuality.org

19. Queer Term used by some LGBTQ people to refer to anyone whose sexual orientation, gender identity or expression is not “standard” in society. Synonym for gay. Traditionally was a slur reclaimed by many in the LGBTQ community.

20. Same-Gender Loving Some prefer to use this term instead of lesbian or gay to express attraction to and love of people of the same gender.

21. Homophobia The fear, hatred of, or discomfort with people who love and are sexually attracted to members of the same sex. https://www.aclu.org/map/non-discrimination- laws-state-state-information-map

22. Biphobia The fear of bisexuals, often based on inaccurate stereotypes, including associations with infidelity, promiscuity, and transmission of sexual transmitted diseases.

23. Energy Break! Get up, and meet someone ACROSS the room, opposite from where you are seated. Question to discuss: Who was the first LGBTQ-identified celebrity that made an impression on you and why?

24. Terms Related to Gender Identity and Expression

25. Biological Sex The classification of people as male or female. Determined by our chromosomes (XX for females, XY for males); our hormones (estrogen/progesterone for females, testosterone for males); and our internal and external genitalia (vulva, clitoris, vagina for females; penis and testicles for males).

26. Gender Identity Refers to a person’s innate, deeply felt psychological sense of gender, which may or may not correspond to the person’s assigned sex at birth.

27. Cisgender/”Cis” A neologism meaning "not transgender," that is, having a gender identity or performing in a gender role that society considers appropriate for one's sex. A match between an individual's gender identity and the behavior or role considered appropriate for one’s sex. Someone who is comfortable in the gender they were assigned to at birth. “cis” in Latin: “on the same side as”

28. Gender Expression Refers to all of a person’s external characteristics and behaviors – such as dress, grooming, mannerisms, speech patterns, and social interactions – socially identified with a particular gender.

29. Gender Role Set of socially-defined roles and behaviors assigned to females or males. Can vary from culture to culture in society. Often described in terms of masculinity or femininity.

30. Transgender Used as an umbrella term for people who experience and/or express gender differently from what others might expect based on the sex they were assigned at birth. Their sex at birth is different than who they know they are on the inside. “ It’s what’s between your ears, not between your legs.” This includes people who are transsexual, cross-dressers, or otherwise are gender non-conforming. These people may identify as: trans man, trans woman, genderqueer, genderfluid, nonbinary, bigender, androgynous, or gender variant.

31. Trans* Inclusive term to refer to anyone who is transsexual, transgender, or intersexed. Transgender people may be straight, lesbian, gay, bi/pansexual, or asexual.

32. Common Third-Gender or Gender Neutral Pronouns ze, zie, zir, hys, hir, per, they Pronouns used in the trans community instead of “he/she” or “him/her”. These invented pronouns offer inclusion and accuracy for someone who doesn’t identify by the male/female gender classifications.

33. Transsexual A term referring to a transgender person who changes their physical and/or legal sex to better conform to their internal sense of gender identity. The term can also be used to describe transgender people who, without undergoing medical treatment, identify and live their lives as a member of the gender opposite that which conforms to their sex assigned at birth.

34. Cross Dresser A person who occasionally wears clothes and/or makeup and accessories traditionally associated with people of a different gender. This person is usually comfortable with the sex they were assigned at birth and do not wish to change it. who generally have no intention or desire to change their anatomical sex. Cross-dressing is more often associated with heterosexual men, is more often engaged in on an occasional basis, and is not necessarily reflective of sexual orientation or gender identity.

35. Cissexism Systems that assume everyone is cis and privileges people who are. Internalized messages that it's better to be cis. Assuming gender based on genitals. Genitals do not determine gender. What matters is how one feels and identifies – not one’s private parts.

36. Transphobia The systematic oppression, irrational fear or discomfort with people who do not fit societal expectations or who do not conform to cultural gender norms. Sometimes manifested through ignoring or invalidating the existence of trans people, stereotyping and hate crimes ranging from verbal harassment to assault, rape and murder.

37. Stats on Trans Folks Between ¼ and 1% of the population is transgendered. Trans women are 2000% more likely to be murdered than gay men. 29% of trans people have been raped or assaulted by someone known to them. 48% of trans people have been raped or assaulted more than once in their lifetime. 82% of trans people do not report their abuse/sexual assault(s) to the police.

38. Intersex People born with with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male. They exhibit varying degrees of the biological aspects of both biological males and biological females. Often “assigned” a male or female identity at birth that may not correspond with identities later in life. www.isna.org www.isna.org https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cAUDKEI4QKI

39. Two-Spirit General term used for some Native Americans who are transgendered and highly regarded in a tribe. Often given special status such as a medicine man/woman. Cultural belief that these individuals are privileged to house both male and female spirits in their bodies. Two-spirited beings were given gift of seeing two perspectives at the same time and were revered as leaders, mediators, teachers, artists, seers, and spiritual guides.

41. Here’s one more way to understand it… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x XAoG8vAyzI&feature=player_embed ded

42. Terms that can inflict distress or be offensive, or are outdated

43. Homosexual The term is an outdated clinical term considered derogatory and offensive by many gay people. Gay and/or lesbian are more commonly accepted terms to describe people who are attracted to members of the same sex.

44. Lifestyle Term used by people to describe how GLBTQ people live their lives. Viewed negatively because it trivializes the complexities of individual experience and implies sexual orientation as a choice.

45. Sexual Preference Derogatory phrase referring to one’s sexual orientation and implies a choice in a person’s fundamental attraction.

46. Transvestite Out-of-date term for someone who chooses to dress in clothing assigned to a different gender. ALWAYS OFFENSIVE: “tranny”, “she-male”, “he-she”

47. Terms used in relation to the LGBTQQ community

48. Questioning Refers to people who are uncertain, self-analyzing their sexual orientation or gender identity. Part of the process of identity development.

49. Coming Out Coming out of the closet, or simply coming out, is a figure of speech for lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, and asexual (LGBTQ+) people's self-disclosure of their sexual orientation (or lack thereof) and/or gender identity. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9TBTRFChC1M

50. Closet Place where LGBTQQ people figuratively hide their sexual orientation or gender identity from others

51. Outing Revealing other person’s sexual orientation or gender identity, especially a person in the LGBTQ community

52. D/L or Down Low Label adopted by some African-American and Latino men who seek same sex relations, but do not necessarily identify as gay or bisexual

53. Internalized Homophobia Refers to the self-identification of societal stereotypes by lesbian, gay, and bisexual people, causing them to dislike and resent their sexual orientation.

54. Heterosexism Overt or tacit bias or assumption of superiority in society of heterosexuals or heterosexual behavior. Disbelief that sexual orientation is innate. Assumption that all people are heterosexual in society

55. Heterosexual Privilege Powers and privileges that heterosexuals generally have, and that gay and lesbian (and sometimes bisexual persons) do not. Examples include…

56. Examples of Heterosexual Privilege Not having to justify to others that your heterosexuality is not a choice Assumption that one is psychologically healthy Being validated by one’s religion Being socially accepted by neighbors, friends, family, co-workers, and professional colleagues Being able to be open about sexuality and not fear lack of promotions, employment loss, etc. Legalized marriage (in other countries) Filing joint tax returns (only since 2015 is this possible) Ability to adopt children without questions Health insurance for one’s partner Decisions on health-related issues as they relate to one’s partner Living life without fear of someone finding out who you fall in love with Being open about one’s living arrangements Having positive images and role models portrayed in the media Being assured that when looking at magazines, advertising, movies, and TV that you will see relationships that look like yours Sharing holidays with families and one’s partner Right to “family memberships” at recreational facilities

57. Debrief Terminology Activity Any new terms/signs that surprised you? What terms are you still fuzzy about?

58. 2 Groups of Terms Sexual Orientation Bi/Pansexual Heterosexual/Straight Lesbian Gay Queer * Gender Identity & Expression Cisgender Cross Dresser Gender Role Intersex Queer * Trans, Transgender Transsexual Third Gender Pronouns: zie, ze, hys, hir, per, they

59. Terms that Empower vs. Disempower Affirming Gay GLBT/GLBTQ Queer * Sexual Orientation Trans* Inflicting Distress Homosexual Lifestyle Queer * Sexual Preference Transvestite

60. Last definition: ALLY How do you define it? What does it look like in practice?

61. Ally A person who supports and honors sexual and gender diversity, acts accordingly to challenge homophobic/bi/transphobic remarks and behaviors, and explores and understands these forms of bias within him or herself. http://www.buzzfeed.com/chester2010/9- ways-to-be-a-better-ally-to-lgbt-youth-11dfz http://www.buzzfeed.com/chester2010/9- ways-to-be-a-better-ally-to-lgbt-youth-11dfz

63. WOU Safe Zone Mission The Western Oregon University Safe Zone program seeks to form an ally network of students, faculty and staff committed and trained to provide safe, non-judgmental and supportive contacts for all WOU community members regarding Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans*, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Ally, and Asexual identities. We are committed to providing a campus atmosphere of universal acceptance and assistance. Sign up to attend an Ally Training (Levels I and II) safezone@wou.edu How can we all work towards achieving this mission here at Western? safezone@wou.edu

64. Questions?