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2. Draw and write on the tablecloth, with the colours you’ve been given, tips for creating safer spaces. 6 minutes Pray and notice God 3 minutes

3. marriage and relationships Step 1 4 minutes To reflect on your own; Did you have the opportunity to contribute your ideas? Yes / No If no, what prevented you being able to contribute? If yes, what enabled you to be able to contribute? Did you create opportunities for others to contribute during the activity? Yes / No If yes, what did you do? If no, is there anything you could have done differently? Step 2 6 minutes To talk about with your group; Is this activity one you think you might be able to use at your District event on marriage & relationships? Yes / No Yes – why No – why Reflective practice & self awareness

4. marriage and relationships Step 1 Read the Homophobia : definition and guidance document Step 2 Take 5 tokens Step 3 How could this document help you to create a safe enough space? Step 4 In pairs talk about how it felt to do this activity. Questions you might want to explore; Is there anything you noticed about yourself? Is there anything you noticed about the participation of others? Is this an activity you might be able to use in your District reflection on marriage & relationships? i. If yes, why could it be useful? ii. If no, why might it not be useful?

5. marriage and relationships What happens when we start to consider areas of human life which impact deeply on our core beliefs? Step 1 Play Jenga Step 2 Analogy between Jenga and safe enough spaces for theological reflection Step 3 At your tables consider together, what practical things can you have in place at your District event to help people with the blocks which may have fallen down. Write them on the flipchart paper provided, and we will type them all up and email them back out to you.

6. marriage and relationships Step 1 Take a minute to read through the handout Step 2 In pairs for 30 seconds : Person A talk about your journey here Person B deliberately do NOT follow listening good practice 1 minute : How did this feel for the person speaking? Step 3 Repeat activity but this time Do follow listening good practice 1 minute : How did this feel for both people? listening

7. A GOOD CONVERSATION Reflective Generative SUSPEND Skilful discussion Debate DEFEND

8. Resilience Serenity Mindfulness Right-ness marriage and relationships

9. Thought distortions Resilience marriage and relationships

10. Facts Stories Resilience marriage and relationships

11. What am I making this mean? Resilience marriage and relationships

12. Catastophizing Resilience marriage and relationships

13. It’s all down to me Resilience marriage and relationships

14. gratitude Resilience marriage and relationships

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18. marriage and relationships Identify a worry you might have about managing conflict in the reflection conversations in District/Circuit/Church. Share tips and good practice with one another, and examples of when conflict has (n’t) been managed well

19. marriage and relationships In pairs, pick a card and discuss it. As a small group share what you spoke about. Draw or write your thoughts & comments on the table cloth. Notice the links or differences between these words & images from those from the safe space words & images

20. marriage and relationships In what ways will the ideas improve my effectivness regards the District/Circuit conversations... (on to post its) I enjoyed the session A lot Some Little None Did I learn what I needed to & get new ideas Yes No I will use the info & ideas A lot Some Little None

21. marriage and relationships 30 minutes Take the proforma and with those from your District take some time to plan your next steps 15 minutes Come back to your tables and share any problems / concerns / questions / risks

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