1. “We don’t wear out, we rust”

2. Family 2 Functions: 1.Provide a developmental environment for children 2.Basic unit of social support – who would you call if you needed help?

3. 7 Types of Family 1.Nuclear- Mom Dad Kids

4. 2. Single-Parent- Mom OR Dad Kids

5. 3. Blended- Mom OR Dad Step-mom or dad Step-siblings Siblings

6. 4. Extended- Mom, Dad, Kids plus other relatives – Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins

7. 5. Adoptive- Mom Dad Kids Adopted kids (Permanent)

8. 6. Foster- Mom Dad Kids Foster kids (Temporary)

9. 7. Other- Any combination of people living together in one household.

10. Maintaining Healthy Families Cooperate – meet your responsibilities without being asked or reminded Show appreciation – be supportive and encouraging – say thanks Be a good communicator Offer help Be empathetic – put yourself in other’s shoes Work to resolve conflicts – don’t hold grudges Know when to get outside help

11. Extra Credit Write a thank you note to a family member to show you appreciate them… if it is neat and readable you will earn 1 point. If you add pictures (they can be hand- drawn or printed out), make it colorful and pretty you can earn an extra point…

12. Healthy choices begin with having a goal. Where do you want to end up in life? What do you want to do when you grow up? If you want to soar like an eagle, you may have to cut off the chickens. “Misery loves company”… what does that mean?

13. Dealing with Loss

14. 5 Stages of Grief Denial—"I feel fine."; "This can't be happening, not to me." Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual.Denial Anger—"Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; "Who is to blame?" Anger Bargaining—"Just let me live to see my children graduate."; "I'll do anything for a few more years."; "I will give my life savings if..."Bargaining

15. DepressionDepression—"I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die... What's the point?"; "I miss my loved one, why go on?" Sometimes just being around friends and doing activities that you enjoy can help you get through this time. AcceptanceAcceptance—"It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it." Life will be different, but life will go on. It doesn’t mean you won’t miss the person who died, but you can move forward and live your life the way your loved one would have wanted you to do. Some people found charities to help others with similar illnesses or help out at centers or camps for people who are going through similar losses. Sooner or later, EVERYONE loses someone they love. “It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all”…

16. Who does this apply to? It was originally written by a doctor (Dr. Kubler-Ross) in the 1960’s working with terminally ill patients at a hospital. Later it was applied to all grieving situations…like the loss of a loved one, a job, a house, etc. Do people always follow the order 1-5? Kübler-Ross claimed these steps do not necessarily come in the order noted above, nor are all steps experienced by all patients, though she stated a person will always experience at least two. Often, people will experience several stages in a "roller coaster" effect—switching between two or more stages, returning to one or more several times before working through it. Can you speed up the process or impact it’s progress? The grief process is highly personal and should not be rushed, nor lengthened. Eventually, the final stage of acceptance is reached. What would happen if this area got hit by tornadoes and everyone in your neighborhood lost their home? What happened to people living in New Orleans when Hurricane Katrina hit?

17. Sooner or later, everyone loses someone they love. The worst grief usually lasts for 6 months. Acceptance is not missing someone less, it’s just accepting that life will be different, but will go on.